You may have forgiven her but she may have a hard time forgiving herself. She may not be capable of doing it. The guilt from what she did may keep her from being able to come home to you.
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It's frustrating to see her just sitting there all whoa is me you deserve better and I'm not going to make the effort to pick myself back up and try.
Again, she may not know how.
Let me ask you something. Lets change places with her for a minute. Say you go out to a bar or just met a woman you worked with. You all get to talking and one thing leads to another. You end up having either an EA or a PA. What do you do? You go home and lie to your wife because you don't want to hurt her. Then she finds out and you lie even more. You split and live apart for a bit while she processes what you did.
Now, the guilt is eating you alive. Once your wife decides she forgives you for doing it, can you forgive yourself. Can you look your wife in the eyes every day for the rest of your life knowing you did her wrong? Knowing each time you leave the house the thoughts that are going through her mind?
Maybe she is fighting her own demons right now. No, I'm sure she is fighting her own demons right now.
Let me ask you something. Lets change places with her for a minute. Say you go out to a bar or just met a woman you worked with. You all get to talking and one thing leads to another. You end up having either an EA or a PA. What do you do? You go home and lie to your wife because you don't want to hurt her. Then she finds out and you lie even more. You split and live apart for a bit while she processes what you did.
Now, the guilt is eating you alive. Once your wife decides she forgives you for doing it, can you forgive yourself. Can you look your wife in the eyes every day for the rest of your life knowing you did her wrong? Knowing each time you leave the house the thoughts that are going through her mind?
Living in a what if world is pointless, I wouldn't do that.
Living in a what if world is pointless, I wouldn't do that.
I didn't say you had to live in "what if" world. I was just trying to point out that it may be hard for her to deal with what she has done to you. Maybe she thinks she is punishing herself by staying away and getting the divorce.
You know me, I am right up there with leave their @ss if they can't grow up and come home. I am all for DBing to a certain point.
What I am trying to say is not coming out right. My mind says one thing but it just doesn't sound right when I type it. I'm used to bashing you Trapt, not being serious about stuff so it is hard for me to explain it.
Just make sure she has on cherry chapstick!!! 