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I don't know laughing's story.


I think any last shred of feelings I had for him went yesterday. He has gone out of his way to ensure that i hate him and I think he finally succeeded. Sad thing is I have fought so hard to resist that emotion.


On this I have no choice. I either do what you suggest or he does it to me.


I'm glad you have faith in me here BM but I'm not so sure if only bc/c the law seems to be on his side every step of the way. i feel like I'm not only fighting him but the British justice system as well.

Alison, might be best not to check up on laughing. I think hers is one of the scariest stories I have read on this bb,but the woman has been amazing. Plus she is dealing with USA laws.
Usually UK law favours the mum, but I guess your kids are young adults almost so they get a choice and it complicates things.

Good luck.

While this might sound selfish I have too much on my own plate to looking for other people's sitches right now.


Exactly. I realised today that my H has been playing the system all along. I have more than enough proof that he has been less than a good dad in recent years. I had hoped to never have to use it but he has given me no choice now.

L advised me to meet D13 from school. She said to tell her I would be there but I knew if I did D13 would be nowhere to be seen. So I just arrived at school. Unfortunately I chose the wrong entrance to sit outside (there are at least 3) and so didn't catch her. I did use the fact that I was there to go and speak to her teacher though and she was really understanding.

I did get hold of D13 and reluctantly she did come and talk to(or should I say shout at)me. It went pretty much as I expected. Badly. L had advised me to encourage D13 to see how H was manipulating her with his timing but she said she didn't care. She said she was happier there than here. When I asked her how that would pan out when her dad had achieved his aim she said she didn't care as she would find another way to make herself happy. He has well and truely brain washed her.

I have no choice I have to involve the courts now. It will be costly and will probably result in me being out of a home if only b/c I have to sell to pay the court bills. My biggest concern however is the long term effect this is going to have on D13. She has no self esteem whatsoever and I know exactly how that feels. For a nearly 14yr old it is a very scary feeling.

oh jeez ACJ, I'm so sorry hon! will pray for you to have the knowledge and patience to deal with that bully, what an arse, the nerve!! sounds like count is the only way to deal with him now.

Hi ACJ,

Thinking of you. I wish you a peaceful and good week-end. (((HUGS)))

The gloves are off. It will be a bare knuckle fight to the finish. I have been pushed far enough.

Hi Alison, this doesn't sound good.
I guess you heard or had more bad news.
Try to let the legal people sort things out after all that's why we pay them mega bucks!and it is easier and less painful that way I found.
I just got too emotional when trying to deal with it all myself.
Take care.

that's a bit of an understatement I'm afraid Naej.



That's what I intend to do but there will be no more negotiation. It's time for me (and my legal team) to take back control.



There are no emotions left in me (which right now is probably a good thing).

Alison, I am sorry, but it does help us feel better if we are in control of our situation.Nothing you can do about H's.

I hope your Sunday is peaceful.
Easter is coming and that is a festival of sadness then hope and new life.
I pray that you will find those blessings in your own life.
I guess you just have to go through the valley to get to that hill top.
Take care.

Alison, you okay?
Hope your Sunday went well, least it was lovely weatherwise.