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He called to ask me if I had our personal tax stuff together. I told him I would call him back when I made sure it was altogether, I was in the car when he called. I called him back and told him it was ready when I got home. He said he didn't have time to take it to the accountant the next day so he would get it later. I have not talked to him since then.

Yoyo -
My C calls what your husband does (and mine!) "the hook". Just in case they "might" want to come back, they throw out this hook and reel us in just enough to keep us on the line. Once I saw what H was doing for what it really was, it lost it's effect on me. I don't want to be someone's second choice. It sounds like you are coming to that conclusion, too.

It's definitely a process and, like you, it took me a long time, too. More time than most. It's ok. We're all on different timelines and you are obviously doing what is right for you.

Take Care,
LO

Oh.. one more thing.. I agree that your H is scared to death about what you are going to get financially..

LO,
Yes, I'm a slow learner, it took me way too long. One of my dear friends called me tonight. We had not had a chance to talk for a while. We both have daughters that are seniors and have been wrapped up with their activities. I updated everything that had happened in the past month. As I told her, I thought, gee, he is really a horrible person, why have would I ever want to be with him again? I know it sounds crazy, but saying it out loud just made it sound worse than just thinking about it. It really opened my eyes to what I have put up with.

She is a wonderful friend. She is the type who listens and lets me get it out of my system. She has been here for me during this entire journey. I can remember many times her coming to my house or me going to her house when he first left. She would sit and listen while I talked and cried. She is truly an angel and I have told her that many times before.

Hi Yoyo,

I'm glad you have that friend to talk to. Sometimes we can see things so much more clearly through another person's eyes.

Even better to have a friend who knows how to let us talk so that we see things more clearly for ourselves.

(((((Hugs))))) and blessings.

Yesterday I received some of our business mail in our home mailbox. It said something about bankruptcy so of course I immediatedly opened it. It was about some company filing bankruptcy and what was owed to companies. Our company was not on it so I wasn't sure why we would get one other than just to let us know that particular company had filed bankruptcy. I called H to let him know about it. He said he had never heard of the company, but would get it later.

About an hour later I was making dinner for the girls and myself and he called. He said he was on the way over to get the letter. I told him I would just let DD bring it to him later. He said he was almost to the house.

He walked in about the time we were about to eat so you know me I'm too nice for my own good I invited him to eat. What was I supposed to do. I know some of you will have good answers for that.

DDs and I carried on a normal conversation like we always do. H was lost as usual because he doesn't know what is going on in their lives even though the oldest one lives with him. He kept asking questions.

Everyone finished and I got up and started cleaning the kitchen. I took the trash outside. He soon followed me. We talked a while but kept it very light. I can honestly say I really had no feelings about him being here one way or other. This detachment thing is going pretty good.

So this is where the story gets good....He said he was at the Tyson Chicken plant that our company does maintenance for. As he was walking through he said he felt something hit the top of his head. He looked down after it had landed on the floor and it was half of chicken fryer! I think my guardian angel did it! I've heard of pennies from heaven, but never chickens from heaven! LMAO

That is a good one! So did it not the rug off his head? That is so weird. That must have been pretty heavy hitting him in the head like that.

OMG.. That's too funny LOL... Im suprised it didn't knock him out!!

Im glad that you have someone to talk to, not to judge just to listen, its so important for your sanity.

((((((yoyo)))))

Wow, what an interesting morning I'm having...
Rumors started last night that there will be a gang retaliation at our school today. Supposedly, a boy got in a fight after school yesterday so he is bringing back up with guns today. My daughter's cell phone was going crazy last night receiving text messages from everyone about the supposedly gun shootout today. Unreal, our school district has always been Mayberry USA. Sad what today's youth have evolved into.

When I drove up today there were two police cars parked across the street and one was in the back parking lot. Keep in mind my little community has about 5,000 people so this is scary for the kids. I had a hard time convincing my daughter to come to school today. I told her that if it was true they wouldn't be advertising it. So if you hear of a school shooting in AR, it's me.

You know Yoyo that's so wierd because today one of the schools in our area also had the police in because a boy had posted on the internet last night that he was going to do something bad at school today- the police took it really seriously.....especially after the recent shooting in a German school.....and they searched this lad and found lots of flammable liquids and matches and lighters on him. They then went on and searched all the other pupils, (around 900). It is so horrid that this is what it can be like nowadays.