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Jimbo,

Dude, you and that hat can do some pretty cool stuff. Sorry I missed you yesterday, I'm actually here late this week. So when my phone rings at about 5:15........

And please type a little slower.....you know Trapt can't read fast...

Hope to catch ya later......

Hey..... I almost done.

Blimey Jimbo.. you did well! Wow, you really held it togerht, you were a 'model' DBer.. clever how you manouevred her to the restaurant ! Sounds like she actually got something out of seeing you, because she could have cut the evening short, of course and it didnt need to be 2 1/2 hours long. Did you get the impression from teh topics of conversation that she missed you?

So.. I am wondering.. how did you feel on seeing her? Was it hard? Do you still lvoe her, fancy her? Did it upset you, or did you feel bouyed up by it?

Interesting she agreed when you said 'we should do this again', I hope you do get to. I also havent seen my ex for nearly 4 months now (but likely will next week).. does feel like an awfully long time, doesnt it.

I'm so impressed with yuo handled that! Does seem like she is sticking to her guns for now though, doesnt it?

Al

That's how I'll know...

me too!!! LMAO!!!

Y o u ' r e
p a t h e t i c !


(slow enough?)

It'll probably be you, and THAT"S how I know.......

Wow, Jimbo, I'm new here, and I think you did a great job. Isn't it amazing how the DB rules pop into your head, and the right things come out of your mouth sometimes. When I set boundaries, or don't feed into my H's grouchy mood like I used to, I feel so great. You are a great DB'er.

ah, and I'm even impressed - coming from someone who the h*ck cares!

poet

Hi Al- I haven't had a chance to pop in on your thread lately. I hope you're doing well.

I'll tell you straight out, I can't read her. At all. She says one thing and does another in true MLC fashion. Talking to her, it seemed like I was talking to the old W, but looking back I'm seeing more and more stuff that she said that I can identify as MLC. I'd like to take the fact that she said that she was having a good time and then started to reaffirm her position about the D as a sign that she felt good enough about me to be threatened enough that she felt she had to bring up the whole D issue to defend herself against those feelings. I think she feels like her feelings for me are a threat to her expression of her self-identity, thus the running away and needing to convince herself that she has no feelings for me anymore. Or that's my working theory right now...

How did I feel seeing her? Hmmmmm...guarded? It was much like meeting up with an old friend. The spark was not there with her, which was to be expected, and I didn't feel any sparks- probably because, to quote a good friend and mentor, "I love her- I just don't like her very much right now". I felt in control of my situation until the phone call with her this morning. (More on that in my thread).

She is definitely sticking to her guns. She needs them right now, and I'm not going to try to take them away.