So, next week is spring break for the kids. She was complaining about how broke she was (plane tickets and laptops aren't ya know), so I said I will take some time off work (very slow and possibly laying off anyway), and I would ttake them during the day, she can drop them off or I can pick them up whichever she desires. I thought she agreed (this was 2 weeks ago). She always uses the word "whatever" when I ask her something, I just ignore it. So on Friday afternoon when we are handing off the kids (what a crappy term to use), she tells me that the kids will be going to her sister's for the break. She has not once since this started asked me to help with the kids on her week, I just simply looked her in the eye and said matter of factly "whatever". I could see the venom in her eyes. I have already booked it off, the kids have stated they don't want to got o her place (ignored all week). Nothing but an obvious attempt at control.
"compromise is a form of surrender" My happyness is the most important thing here. How can I be a good mother if I'm not completely happy" "pick your battles" Half the truth is still not a lie"
some of the quotes she's used since this started.
Me: 36 years old 1st marriage Wife: 40 years old second marriage S: 12 D: 6 Status: Separated Nov 2/08, Served papers Feb 18/09. PA confirmed 03/09 Custody: 1 week on, 1 week off, wife wants sole.
Don't know how you feel about it but typically your lawyer (at least in my state) can put a phrase in the agreement that if either parent needs to find a sitter for the kids the other parent will be given first option to watch kids. The time frame can be of your choosing. My W and I originally had 4 hours but my W and I have not had a problem so it was taken out in the final settlement agreement to give us more flexibility.
sorry for what you are going through. I sometimes think it is tougher to watch my wife and daughters relationship sink than it is hers and mine.
