I think you vastly under rate those on your side. I can think of only two on your H's - his mother and the OW......and I'm not sure the OW would be completely on his side.
Saffie, I can always count on you my friend to say the right thing. If I came to England, would I get to meet your kilt man?
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Am I the only one here kind of rooting for you to D him and really hit him where it hurts, his wallet? But you know, you have to do what's right for you and your family! I do know that whatever happens you will do great because of the wonderful woman you are!!! Karen
Hey girl. Sadly, your patience, love, and loyalty isn't enough for him to see straight and come back. You have grown a lot over the time you have been separated, but there is so much more growing you can do, and ONLY do after you are officially on your way to D, and you know in your heart, you won't be turning around.
Stay strong, regain your freedom and be true to yourself.
I am much more affordable vacation coming my way than crossing the pond to England!
It is a nice area here. I think you can use a vacation about now!
D15 and me are going away next week to California. Never been there. Meeting up with Trying2Live who used to post on this board. Also a few others who post to the M builders board. Feel like I know some of the people here better than my own family right now. They understand and get it! Some of my relationships with my friends have suffered because I have a tough time relating to them for now. I know it will change later.
Anytime you want to escape let me know! seriously.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
I got this in an email. It's one of those brain teasers. It works everytime and for the life of me I can't figure it out. I know someone is much smarter than me, please tell me how it works!
We have been going through this together on these boards for quite a while. I would love to meet you.
Karen - you are not the only one who thinks that. I think my recent post have made it pretty clear that I am thinking the way you are....and Sara is too.
I do think if Yoyo takes that route though her H will try worming his way back in in - I just hope Yoyo is able to see through him; that's why I told her to harness her anger.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Many of you know that MIL has not been a very nice person to me through this all. For you all that don't know the story, she became friends with OW and was all for the H and her ending up together. She never was very active in my DD's lives. DD20 said that MIL came by office yesterday. She was telling DD20 that she had gone to the doctor. DD20 told her that she wished she would talk her Dad into going to office. He has been having some chest pains. DD20 has been trying to get him to go to doctor. MIL replied,"Yes,I know he needs to go. He is under a lot of pressure from the stress of his work and his personal life." DD20 said, "I wanted to tell her that his personal problems were his own fault!" DD20 and her grandmother have never had much of a relationship and when MIL says something like this it makes DD20 more put out with her.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
