Doing well ! H took his dear ow to Paris for a long weekend. I'm sure he has a lot to make up for...
He flew over our heads last Thursday with a friend of his in a helicopter..called us even to tell us he was flying over the house...
Ow has started showing her true colors...she played a nasty one on the kids the other day...I was visiting a friend and my son was there to my surprise... H was going to come and pick him up, and when he did I was still there having some wine with my friend. I wondered why the girls didn't come out of the car to say hello to me...and asked them about it later that night. All they said was that H had told them to stay in the car...The next day after school, I got the kids back and they told me the whole story.... Apparently H had told them to stay in the car, and they had asked ow if they could quickly go in and say hi to me...ow said 'no, your dad told you to stay in the car'...'if your mom wants to say hi, she'll come out herself !' Then D8 told ow, that I would not come out because ow was in the car and that her mommy didn't want to see ow. Then ow said to her...'if your mommy REALLY wants to say hello, she'll come out and not be bothered by my precense...' Can you believe how coniving she is ??? WOW !! Showing true colors !!! Oh well, I've decided not to tell H about it....the kids are annoyed at ow anyway about it, and I think I will let it play it's course....that's much better I think.
Oh well, for the rest I'm doing very well... enjoyin life, and very very busy !!!
Going to my first yoga lesson tomorrow morning... hope I like it !
Take care dear all !!!
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
I just want to clarify.... for those of you who may feel that I should have gone out to the car anyway and kissed my kids and not taken any notice of the ow...
I see your point. However, I am not doing this to test anyone, or deprive anyone...all of it didn't take more than a few minutes of H coming into my friends house, picking up S5 and leaving again...there really wasn't much time to even consider all of this until after he left. I do think that I very much consider my kids in all of this ! I know that if I would have walked out to say hello, my kids would have felt extremely UNCOMFORTABLE with the situation... D10 has said this many times before to me....'mommy, I would rather you don't see us interact with ow, as I wouldn't want you to feel hurt'. I would not tell my kids of course that I would be hurt, but I do see and realize that my children do very well without me and ow interacting.
Of course this situation will not go on forever...one day probably I will face ow when needed. I will prefer to do this a first time without my kids around, as it will give them less stress. And I try to avoid stressing them out over this...
I do not talk bad about ow... as a matter of fact, I listen to what the kids tell me and try to be as normal as possible about it all. Please understand that no ill was intended from my side..it all happened to fast for that to have been the case.
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Cinders, I think the going out to the car or not going out is something we perhaps might do differently with hindsight. At the time and in each given situation we just as you say don't make any concious decision it just happens. So no point giving it much credance. It happened. I agree tho' when you have to meet her it would be best alone and no children involved, just in case they are squeamish with the sight of blood! no only joking.
We can only "do" what we feel comfortable with at any given time. Take care.
And what about your date? Did you meet him yet? - I was thinking of you on the week-end when I met "my hiker". I find it just so difficult to find the right person.
It was a relief ! 
