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Oh yes, I got snow. Do you want some of mine? 2-3 inches. You are right about it being cold. I went to Lawrence to the B Lawyer today and there was a car on one of the side streets that must have had a bus splash it. There was ice hanging all over it!!

Well I have all the B paperwork done. Just have to spend all of my money and then call the L and he will electronically file it. I appreciate all of you not looking down on me because of it. I have been pretty hard on myself. I know if the divorce hadn't happened, I wouldn't be here filing B. Just so you all know, ex blames me for his having to file because he had about half the bills to pay and child support and alimony and couldn't afford all that.(I remember telling him that for a couple of years but I guess he just didn't care).

Hopefully the case will be closed in 4-6 months and then it will be over. Then I can heave a sigh of relief!!

kat

I'm glad this will be done. I know how it has been weighing on you for a long time.

(((Kat))))

I'm glad. And then if you're like me, have you found that your H was the one that was spending most of the money? I think the way he spends it's always a bit more than he has, so may always be a ## for him if OW doesn't continue to help him out.

I won't look down on you Kat if you don't look down on me. I'll def. be going through foreclosure and maybe B too. A lot of the stuff we're going through I don't think was caused by us, so things will get better for us I know. Karen

hey girlie, no judgement from me, i will soon be with you i think.
how bout our ku boys? i hope we can keep it up!

OMG!! What an awesome game. What a difference a month(and the venue) make. Heinrich and Collison sitting together watching the game. I would have loved to have been there but at least I don't have to fight the traffic!

Sorry that you might be with me soon on the financial front. Better to get it over with I think.

kat

i just knew you would be watching!! its an amazing game! mizzou who??

yeah oh well, actually there are worse things than B!!

HUGS!

I guess there are. I just always was proud of how I was doing and now it has all come tumbling down. My consolation is that I am not the one that knocked it all down. I have to look out for the kids and as long as the five of us are together we will be fine.

I am luckier than most I suppose. The B L was saying something about all of my retirement accounts. I said I just have the 4, Roth, Ira, 401K and an annuity. He said most people he works with don't even have one, they are pi$$ poor. That made me feel kind of bad. Not that I have at least planned some, but that there are people out there that can't.

kat

Well, you would think since I am a girl shopping would make me happy, but it hasn't because I know what it means. I did buy a mattress for the girls, a new sofa and a lawn mower today. Hope to get the dishwasher and the fans in the next day or two. Still need to get the car worked on but don't know how I will get that done in just a couple of days.

Found out today that ex lied to me once again. He said he was a bigger speaker than he thought at a conference on the 14th and that he wouldn't be able to have the kids that day. Turns out that he is going to a friends wedding probably with skank. I am just so mad that he keeps lying to me. I don't know whether to call him on it or not but he has become such a snake!!!

Part of me wants to back out and say that I can't watch them afterall but then he would probably just use his parents. I could maybe have them spend the night with parents...I just don't know.

kat

I don't get the lying and cheating either. But he is who he is. You probably shouldn't believe much of anything he says at this point. I think you should do what makes you the happiest. Do you think you need a break? If so, I think you should let him take the responsibility b/c it's his scheduled time with them right? Remember the oxygen mask thing...

Kat, I forgot to thank you for last night! I was having a rough night!!! But feel better now... Karen

Oh believe me I have that in my mind all the time. I am slowly learning to take care of myself better and try to put myself up in the top two once and a while!

Ex sent an email today saying so and so was getting married(our best man) and that was why he needed me to watch the kids. I said big difference between being a key note speaker and a wedding. Told him to try the truth next time. He came back with try listening. How soon they forget, he always teased me about having a memory like an elephant and now he tries to say he told me something different. Loser bird!!

Then he was trying to take some time out of the kids Spring break to "make up" for the 14th. I suggested that he take the girls this Saturday for a while(D10 has a birthday party to go to and that would give D8 one on one Daddy time). He seems fine with that and I won't bring up the spending the night on Spring Break. Just another week of dealing with him and his craziness!!

kat