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Hey Jeff,

It's good to hear from you. Snodderly is correct, you do have to do what is best for you. Stay strong!

Thanks Snodderly

Just have a conversation with her tonight. She thought it was in poor taste for me to write a letter and leave for the weekend. Oh well. Anyway she is moviing out april 1st, still to far away but I don't want to force it too much.

She kept trying to bring the conversation back to the OM. She tried to tell me that because she considered us separated the fact she had a relationship with him wasn't cheating. What!!!!! she said that she souldn't have gotten married to begin with and that it was the romance she wanted not marriege. She said she probably would be happier just going from man to man getting romance. She has ADHD but this still seems screwed up. but that is her problem, maybe when she is all alone it will hit her.

Jeff

I had to keep bringing the conversation back to the details of her leaving. Talking about other man at this point wasn't constructive.

I agree, om needs to be left out. Isn't it funny how they will justify their actions. Remember not to take all the blah blah blah personally as far as the going from man to man is concerned.

Staying strong is very important my friend.

Hang in there.

Jeff,
I know exactly how you feel with the walking on egg shells thing, and feeling alone in your own home. Sometimes I catch myself feeling sick on my way home from work. Wondering, is she going to be there or not? Hang in there Brother, your not alone.

Jeff,
You handled the conversatio beautifully. You kept the conversation on what was important and the om shouldn't have been in the conversation.

Please do not take anything she says personally. It's called projection.

Does she really think she will be happier going from man to man to get romance? That just floored me when I read that.

Also wanted to say thanks for stopping by my thread on "Surviving", come join in with us anytime you want.

Oh my gosh, I am always amazed at how crazy people are. Really, going from man to man sounds exciting. Not! What goes through these mlc'ers heads.

Well when the romance is over with om, then what and it will be over at some point. Simply amazed!

You did awesome Jeff. Keep being the beam of light!

so-lost

At this point I am looking forward to being in the house by myself, I get the same feeling as you I just don't want to be there. Once she said that she didn't consider it cheating and going from man to man I see that there is no way right now I can do or say anything to bring her to reality.

Trapt,

it's hard not to take it personally but you are right. I just want to grab her and shake her.