This makes the third time I have tried to send a post and about the time I get through, I manage to hit the wrong key and it goes flying away into cyberspace!
Well sweetie-pie, one thing the doctors were not able to remove was your sense of humor. Thank God! You could always make me laugh even on my worst days. You have not lost your touch even when you are not having the best of days. It means the world to me that you came back on the board to touch bases. I have missed you and Miss IC so much. Needless to say, it has not been the same exciting place it was at the time you two left. But we won't go there...in case we get into trouble.
I am very happy to hear the two of you are doing good together b/c I always knew you were meant for each other. Just reading both of your posts, I could almost see the two of you in my mind and I knew you were so right together. I had hoped you would not get too stubborn for her to put up with! Yeah, you messed up, but she still has a special guy and I think she knows that (but that is our little secret, okay?)
I really hate that you are having to go through all this crap with the surgeries, treatments, etc. We learn we can take more than we thought, huh? We also learn that we can do it for those we love......for their sakes. You are lucky in that respect, sweetie, you do have a lot of love in that home of yours. How are your little girls doing now? I bet you have completely stopped with spoiling them, right? Thought so.
Okay, about Sandi's world.....hummmm......pretty dull actually. Oh, I'm just carrying on! But, it is "peacefull" around here and that's not bad......I can take peaceful. Seriously, I hate to say much b/c compared to what you are going through, I am doing better than great. I have had to give up everything I used to do from cooking supper every night to doing what I actually enjoyed. I had to accept the fact that I was going to have to put my job first so I would not get fired, so I could keep my insurance, so I could pay the doctors and buy the meds to help me keep going to the job that makes me sick. Wheeee. This mysterious illness (Fibromyalgia) that is finally getting some attention these days, has cost me my way of life, but I still have my life and am thankful for that and the fact that I still have a job to go to!
My H and I are doing good in our R. He has been so patient and so good to me, IC. All that time that I could barely stand to be under the same roof with him......he just waited it out. I never thought that I would have loving feelings to return again, but in time, they did. So, I can honestly tell people on the board that if you will do what you should do and throw some prayers in there also, it can happen. I just "preach" all the time to these people and I'm sure they are sick of it..... Anyway, he doesn't complain about the fact I can't keep a spotless house, or cook, or go anywhere. He doesn't get mad or fuss. He never raises his voice or snaps at me, like he was doing before the EA started. We don't get into fights or anything......like I said, it's pretty dull (lol). Just kidding. He has been good and I am blessed and I see it more and more every day. As you may remember, I had a hard time doing that for a long time and was just trying to make do with things as best as I could.....or so I thought. But, I had a lot to overcome. It is good to just feel normal in that capasity. I never want to go through anything like that ever again. I still look back in amazement and wonder what the heck happen to me back then. That isn't entirely true (about wondering) b/c I have an idea, but no sense in getting off into all of that. We do live very quiet lives and have slowed down a lot from the way things use to be, but it's okay. I won't complain too loudly (lol). I may joke or talk crazy, but I am blessed.
IC, my sweetie, I had an uncle who explained to me why it was so hard on men to handle being sick......I mean really sick. After he did then it made a lot of sense to me and I could understand you weird creatures a little better... I hope that you will not try to be this big tough character with Miss IC b/c it makes it harder on the wife when that happens. I hope you will open up and let her in close....okay? We women don't expect you guys to be some fearless unrealistic movie hero, we just want you to be "real" and honest with us. I don't have to even bring up the word "stress" b/c you and Miss IC are living it. Illness brings an entirely differnt brand of stress in a MR. My daughter has just married her fourth husband b/c none of them could handle her illness and the problems and stress that came with the package. It takes a lot of love and patient--and I think a special kind of couple--that can battle some of the tests that life throws at them. You and Miss IC are that special couple! As you said, it still takes work....and it will after you've been M 60 years (according to my grandmother). Isn't that a lot to look forward to? (lol)
I hope you will stay in touch when you feel like dropping a line or two b/c I have missed you. You have a special place in my heart and in my prayers. You behave yourself, now, and try to be good and do what the doctors and Miss IC say.
I could go on and on talking but don't want to wear your ears out. Besides, after the third time, I have forgotten what I've said each time and am confusing myself....
Love Ya, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
As in 'walking to the mailbox and almost orgasming' Sandi
Oh, and BTW, of all the things about my threads that you remembered!! I should have known never to have told that! (lol) You are soooo bad and have such a good memory, too!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Saffie, how's our guy doing? Haven't heard anymore from him, so I was concerned. Tell him I'm sending a great big hug his way and praying he feels better real soon.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Anyway, he doesn't complain about the fact I can't keep a spotless house, or cook, or go anywhere. He doesn't get mad or fuss. He never raises his voice or snaps at me, like he was doing before the EA started. We don't get into fights or anything......like I said, it's pretty dull (lol). Just kidding. He has been good and I am blessed and I see it more and more every day. As you may remember, I had a hard time doing that for a long time and was just trying to make do with things as best as I could.....or so I thought. But, I had a lot to overcome. It is good to just feel normal in that capasity. I never want to go through anything like that ever again. I still look back in amazement and wonder what the heck happen to me back then. That isn't entirely true (about wondering) b/c I have an idea, but no sense in getting off into all of that. We do live very quiet lives and have slowed down a lot from the way things use to be, but it's okay. I won't complain too loudly (lol). I may joke or talk crazy, but I am blessed.
I hope that you will not try to be this big tough character with Miss IC b/c it makes it harder on the wife when that happens. I hope you will open up and let her in close....okay? We women don't expect you guys to be some fearless unrealistic movie hero, we just want you to be "real" and honest with us. I don't have to even bring up the word "stress" b/c you and Miss IC are living it. Illness brings an entirely differnt brand of stress in a MR. My daughter has just married her fourth husband b/c none of them could handle her illness and the problems and stress that came with the package. It takes a lot of love and patient--and I think a special kind of couple--that can battle some of the tests that life throws at them. You and Miss IC are that special couple! As you said, it still takes work....and it will after you've been M 60 years (according to my grandmother). Isn't that a lot to look forward to? (lol) 