You could ask him to do that but he might not say yes and you have to remember that. For MT and I both, seeing them be sad is the hardest part. That and knowing you can't do anything to help them feel better. Just hope and pray for them, for you.
And yes, they will say things that indicate a future or a coupleness and then you wonder even more exactly what is going on in their heads. It shows that they don't really know either. My H wanted a new Christmas tree. One that is easier for all of us to put up. Now he is wanting to fix stuff around the house. I don't know anymore so I just listen to what he says and go about my business for the most part. I could exhaust myself to the point of sleeping for weeks if I tried to make complete sense out of all that he says. LOL
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
I just wish I could turn back time. Bet everyone does. He is convinced it's not depression, not sure what the counsellor thinks. Don't think I can ask as we're now both seeing him.
It still doesn't make any sense at all to me.
Anyway, I know we will get through this. I just need to be his friend now.
He is never rude to me or snappy. I know if I really went for it he would come home right now and listen to me but thats now the way round this. He has to want to stay and make a go of it.
Well I sent a light hearted text saying shall we meet after your work and get some shopping, then we can walk home. He replied that he had borrowed his mums car so he could get the shopping if I was home or we could meet. So I said I was in town and would just meet him.
He used to say he even liked shopping with me because there was no stress. Know what he means now.
That is good. Just try to spend the time together without worrying what each comment and what not means. My H would never admit that he is depressed. Hell he has a hard time admitting he is confused. Don't worry so much about diagnosing it. That is up to the counselor.
Keep smiling.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
I will. You and MT and everyone else on here helping people are wonderful.
I think that this has really, truly given me the shake up I need. It's not just about me and him now, I'm still giving myself a hard time, I think I will always regret it if I lose him and blame myself but I will forgive myself. It's not just me.
Hey Regrets! Don't take the blame. Everyone has regrets, and you can't go back as much as we would all like too. Hind sight is 20/20 you know. All you can do is just work on you and enjoy the time you are together. Don't try and figure it out, as you really can't. We try, but we don't really know and they don't really know either.
Just take it one step at a time and relax and enjoy each day as they come. Don't worry about what might happen.
Funny cuz I've wondered if I had a time machine how far back I might go. LOL. But if we changed all of the bad to good, I'm sure there would be something else that showed up. We all are here to learn lessons that we need to learn and that is the bottom line. IF we learn them, well then we are better for it. If we don't, we just keep repeating.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
Yes, I think everything happens for a reason and it will make me a better person. Just wish I had learnt it before met other half.
Well we met at the supermarket. He seemed in a mood so I smiled and just carried on, (sound like a stepford wife). It seemed to work. He was almost normal.
He chatted away about his day without me asking first. At one point he even asked me if I was ok. Just said I was fine.
He ate dinner and seemed more relaxed so I said would you like to chat about how we are going to discuss things. He said we would talk later in the week about our relationship and if we got too emotional then we would leave it til seeing the counsellor. He then said we could go to the cinema. He hates the cinema so that is a bonus.
