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I realize too that those pics are really old because I saw a couple of them over a year ago....when they first started going out....of course they were happy....then. But, why did he put them up if he isn't happy now? I get so confused because of my emotions. Logically, I know that he isn't "happy"...happy people don't treat their wives the way he treats me. Whatever....I still hate this sitch....is ever going to just go away? It's getting easier..yes...but, I want it GONE. DONE. NO MORE HURT.

Just a thought--Maybe the OW hacked his facebook cause SHE is getting very nervous. Maybe she figured if she got the pics there it might scare someone off.

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That was my first thought. Or she asked him why he didn't have any pics of her on there. Because originally, there were pics of my H and K only. Then all these pics of her and H and her and her and her kids show up. Now, I know my H. He would definitely put pics up of himself and his daughter...but I don't think it even crossed his mind to put her pics up there and especially not her kids. He just doesn't think like that...at least not the man I knew. So, most likely it was her doing. Just like having her picture and her kids' pictures in his truck....I'm sure she wants to shove herself down his throat. I could be wrong though...it's been known to happen. I can't even imagine being so insecure that I would have to do that. But, who knows? I can't imagine she's happy about the other people he added as friends...mostly girls. They posted pics to him...and they are all flirty...one blowing kisses...another posing sexy....and she gave him her phone number and asked if he'd like to come visit her at her house. Now, THAT I would feel uncomfortable about if I was with him. That does NOT sit well with me. And, I can pretty much guarantee he will call her. Gross.

He will not be faithful to OW. No way. Another opportunity knocks he is outta there. You are so strong and independent now. He knows this and knows he wouldn't have a chance with you without some major repairs on his part.

BS1.. how much time and energy are you going to invest in this? To what end does it help you? In everything you wrote about it.. all you did is prove what you already know.

This is not helping you. Delete him as a friend. I assume you do not communicate with him that way.. you have enough to worry about without this.

This will drive you crazy if you don't just cut it off.

I know its hard.

I feel your pain on this one.. for sure.

Not going near the FB page that contains him. I told him Mom that I wouldn't be checking her profile because it just doesn't do me any good to see pics of them. But, I told her that we can still send msgs and she can come to my profile and see pics of K. H was a pill last night. I had to go to a fundraiser. He babysat. He was okay, enough. But, when I was going to meet him to pick K up. He asked if I just wanted to come to his house (OW is working). I said "No thanks. Not over us enough to do that. Give me some time, I'm getting there." So, he met me. Dropped K off. Very little interaction between us. I think the best thing for me, right now, is to remove him from my life as much as possible. The only thing he adds to my life is drama and hurt. So, for now. I need to make him NOT exist.

Going to a very cool party at a Greek restaurant tonight. I'm excited. I'll check back later or tomorrow.

Thanks you guys. Thanks for always being there. No more time or effort expended on H.....that's my new goal.

Hello! Want to hear details about all of your social plans! How fun.

I'm here. I know I have been MIA. The weekend was good and fun and exhausting. Friday, had a fundraiser...a Bachelor Auction. It was fun. Picked up my daughter from H...kept it brief and aloof. Saturday, I went to an awesome birthday party. We rode on a trolly through downtown Long Beach having some cocktails and then off to dinner at a Greek restaurant. It was a ton of fun. Sunday, H had K. The drop of in the am was brief. He brought her home and guess what? He was pleasant. He said hello to my parents he talked to me about his job search. He didn't complain when I gave him a bill. He was actually pleasant. I kept my distance from him, though. I just feel I need to keep that space between us, right now.

I feel okay. I feel pretty solid. Hope it lasts.

K is saying Dada. Not just a sound...she is calling him Dada. He loves it. I love it too. I'm fine with that...it's nice for him to have that "first". I just didn't tell him that she already calls our dog, Houdini....Hoo Hoo. So, I guess the dog wins. I'll let Daddy think he got the first word, though. I'm way too nice.

Glad you had a great weekend and you are feeling solid. That is where we all want to be sooner or later right?

Right. It's kind of sad, though, in a way. I feel like I am letting go....I look at my H and I really have no passion for him lately. I noticed that over the last couple of weeks...there are days when I don't even find him attractive. Somehow, that makes me sad. But, then there are days when I am attracted to him....but, they are fewer. I can even bring myself to "say" OW's name, now instead of "her". I still can't stand her. I still think she is a low life, desperate, needy, pathetic, loser that had to buy a man and get herself pregnant to keep him...but, that's just my opinion.