Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums We're separated--What Now? Wandering Poster 50- The Half Century

It looks like we will be telling the kids Wednesday night, all at once. W has her medical test Wednesday, so she changed her work schedule around, and now does not work then or Thursday.

Still not looking forward to that....

I am sorry Jeff. It will be tough but you will all do OK in the end. Go to bed, get some rest,
xxx
K

Hi Jeff, it will be hard for you that's true, but your kids reactions may suprise you.
After all 2 are adults and the younger two adolescents, well almost. I think they probably know alot more than you think.
Honesty is the way to go and love lots of it.
They will worry about what is going to happen to their lives so lots of reassurance's.
Take care.

Hey Jeff, I bet you arent, we are all thinking of you... its a tough thing to have to do as a Dad. So, did you get some advice how to handle it in the end (from your C, and wasnt someone here reccomending some books?).. yes its the younger ones that will be more affected hey.
Sending you a hug. You have come so far,
Al xxx

(((((Kalni)))))(((((naej)))))(((((Ali)))))
I really do think the kids will be ok, and probably not even that surprised. I am sure the youngest isn't going to like it, though. And that makes me sad.

I've gotten some advice on how to handle it. I have a feeling all of that is going to go out the window when the time comes... well, not out the window, but it will become a lot more like guidlines than anything. And I think that is really how it should be. I think how things go should depend on how the kids react, not on how we think they should.

((((((((((Jeff))))))))))

I know this will be really hard for you Jeff, but honesty and openness is the way to go. Your kids are old enough for the truth. At least there is no OP involved that would hurt the kids more because a new person would inevitably be thrown into their lives right at the same moment that the rest of their lives are in upheaval. Something to be thankful for.

I was just thinking that all of you from cooler climes might be interested in knowing that it might get to 90 today. That's 32C for you "C" people. And, yes, that is unseasonably warm, even for here. It will be a record for the day, and the second earliest it has ever gotten to 90, if it does.

Hi Jeff

I'm just having a Bailey's mint on the rocks... would you like one?

((((Jeff))))

It is unseasonably warm here too... not that warm though obviously!

(((((Julia)))))

That sounds great, I think I'll have one!

I guess your snow is long gone!

Virtual one sent!!

Yep, and the evenings are getting lighter which is good. It's light when I leave work... it's like coming out of hibernation I'm sure you remember!