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Frank?

: ) You might figure it out.

mmmmm think I just may have.

Was that meant as a 2x4?

Guess I got the point...

Cinders - get over it.

You are a modern woman and you slept with a man. It's no big deal. As you now know, you are the only one who can control you and you can control how you feel about this. Put it down to a life experience and I promise you in a few months from now you will be laughing with your girlfriends about the-worst-sex-of-your-life...

Cinders - I've been there - I think dating after separation and divorce is like learning to walk ... you take a few steps, you fall over. Sometimes you fall on your bottom and it doesn't hurt, sometimes you fall on your head and get a bump and a bruise - but they heal and you get up and take another few steps.

Now - go out today and buy a box of condoms for your bedside table. OK?

V

Hi Cinders,

Sorry that you are so unhappy and ashamed about what happened. I just hope for you that you did not catch any STD.

Frankly, I found you very naughty and had a chuckle. - I can understand that you wanted some closeness.

Anyway, I hope that you will feel better soon. As everybody else said, don't beat yourself up. Just don't lead this guy on anymore.

Have a lovely week.

Cinders,

It was a mistake. Don't beat yourself up.

You know what I was thinking? It is a little easier to understand WASs weaknesses when we have our own....

Don't be so hard on yourself.

This only proves you are human and not a robot stuffed full of self-help ideals with no substance.

Sh*t happens.
This absolutely does not mean that you are not a woman of principle.
If anything, your immediate regret and remorse confirm that you ARE.
And I have no doubt that forgiveness found you the minute you asked for it.

So chalk this up to a learning experience.
Get yourself tested so you will have peace of mind and set whatever boundaries you determine to be necessary in relation to this and other relationships so you don't have to go through this again.

We live and learn, Cinders.

We all just live and learn.

Dust off and press on.



AmyC

Wow Cinders I am a bit shocked, but hey I totally understand how you could get out of control. Forget it and move on. We all do things in life that we regret.

ok....slept, but woke up a few times worried about the possible STD's...

Anyway...I agree, what's done is done. It wasn't what I had hoped, but then again, I think one night stands never are....

I feel ok today, yes it is something I may laugh with in time, for now, I just think I'm going to try and give it whatever place it needs to get.

And no, I am not a nun, or saint or whatever and I guess, this has felt a bit liberating from that image I was trying to live by, and live up to.
I am only human, and yes we make mistakes.

Poor guy has sent me TM's saying he was so happy to have had me in his arms and all...I let him down kindly.

Oh well, need to shower and pick up the kids at H's ...we're going to the beach to celebrate this rainy weather ...well we're not going to celebrate of course, but yes it is raining cats and dogs over here !

Thanks so much for all your support and kindness, and reminding me that yes, we are all human, and we learn from falling and getting up again !

Take care xxx

Cindy, listen, if we lived life perfect, what would there ever be to work on? I know how easy it is to do something like that, been there done that. What concerns me for you is your H's flippant reaction to your date and all that went with it. Should you have told him? Maybe its a good thing you did, kinda shows you how much concern he has for you..... I'm certainly not suggesting that you go out and have 1 night stands all the time, but I think you need to really look hard at seeing other people. Make it good men this time, I know, there are so few of us out there! LOL