I could be wrong, but I don't think staying out all night and not calling is going to make her be nicer to you. That is inconsiderate no matter how you look at it.
I told her earlier in the week that I planned on going out. She knew where I was going and should have know there was a chance I would stay over as my buddy's house is kinda far ( for RI! ). She's out now, don't know where, I don't ask, she doesn't tell, but she said she was going to a friend's house to watch a movie.
I started making plans for my vacations this summer. I planned on trips with our Ds and me - no W. I'm not sure how things will be between us when vacation time comes around. Don't know whether she'll resent me for it, although I took them last year with me only, and she takes them every year to a B&B with her mother.
Got home from work today and saw a note on my door from the W inviting me to have dinner with just her Friday night at home. I told her just because I would accept, it doesn't mean I'm easy! The topics to be covered are: kids, finances, privacy, and a divorce mediator. Nothing about us, which I think might be a good thing.I took the initiative in seeing a mediator before her as kind of a 180 because this separation was her idea. I wanted to do something unexpected and it did take her by surprise. I'm not sure she's thought out the consequences of a D. I think seeing a mediator might shake a little sense into her.
She wrote them. I know folks on the forum think she's having an A, but I really don't. I've known her for 29 years. I know she's changed, but not that much. She was at a friend's house last night where she said she'd be. My D talked to her and her friend while I was near the phone. She could say the same thing about my behavior lately, but I'm not having an A either.
Kids- She's worried about losing them. Finances- How is she going to survive without you Privacy- She has something she needs to keep hidden Divorce Mediator- Wants all to end nice, and you to be "friends"
My D17 says she wants to stay with me. She blames W for all of this. W makes twice my salary, which she said has never been an issue with her. She did change the password on her computer, although I think that's to keep the girls off it while we aren't home. I think she'll tell me if I ask her. I'm hoping the mediator with show her the reality of everything D entails.
