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Treese

I want to tell you that you are doing fantastic! You are handling things so much better. You are growing leaps and bounds.

As far as your H saying that a D is inevitable, he probably thinks so right now but that doesn't mean that it will happen.

My kids are what helped me make it through the roughest of times. I would look at their faces and say to myself that it is my H's loss. I have my babies and nothing will ever take that from me!!!

Luv ya too!

Y

YR my h has said recently if you don't like how things are going then D me and I will sign the papers. Not sure if that is how he really feels. Did your h ever say things like that.

My h is also very angry still this is going on 3 years. Did your h have the angry phase and if so how did he get over the anger.

My h has also said things like why would you want me back. Did your h say things like that and what would be the point of that convo and if so how did you respond?

Thanks!

GG,
The anger is all part of the revisiting of the early on crisis. He's angry w/himself for screwing up, he's angry at the situation and doesn't know how to fix it just yet. He's testing you Glam. The comment about you not liking it, then D him. It's testing and he doesn't even realize he's doing this to you. DebM went through a lot of what you are experiencing now. You might want to find her threads in the archives and read them. They may help you understand where your h is at the moment.

Glam

Snodderly told me the same things because my H was doing just as yours is. DebM's threads helped me alot. They helped me understand what my H was going through and that I was not alone.

My H said all those things, almost word for word. When my H started that anger phase again, honestly he was very mean and hateful. I knew we were getting close to the end. I kept my mouth shut and watched!

Y

YR..MOM...

I tossed and turned all night last night....did you ever want to Hate your H? Sometimes I just want to be able to put him in a room and let me just have it out with him...LOL....seriously though...so much has gone on in my sitch with H, and some days I just get the urge to box!!

Treese,
We've all had days where we are so angry we think we hate them and then, things settle down again. If you have the urge to box, take up kick boxing or beat the crap out of a pillow. Very good therapy, I might add.

Treese

I remember those days of wanting to kick butt!!! Matter of fact Lissie and I had a cyber bus and we were going to make a trip accross the country and run all of them over!!!! LOL

Y

Hi YR, Those were the days - LOL.

Have a good week.

YR....I want on that bus.....lol...

Believe me....thoughts of running them over have entered my mind...but it would just make a mess that someone would have to clean up....

Snodderly....I did have it out with the pillow the other night...it did feel oooo so good...I will keep that for therapy..otherwise I might go off on H....

I have been having weird dreams lately....OW was in it one night and the mother of his child another...sooo weird...and then I remembered a long time ago I had a dream about the mother of his child and she told me in my dream that he was leaving me for her...that he loved her and he was there also telling me the same thing....wow....it all came crashing back... then I beat her up...oooopppssss!!!

Treese

LOL I think the bus has retired from all the dents on it from hitting all the MLCer's!!

Y