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Too bad you're so far away! Trivia night sounds like so much fun. Good for you for giving it a try.

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Thanks for stopping by here! I know you just need to go through the bad nights, lord knows I had a few whoppers myself.

I love trivia night! My head is full of random, mostly useless information. I just have always gone with other people before, never by myself.

Meant to ask you, if you're comfortable saying, where in the NW are you? I'm from Seattle, that's where most of my friends and family are.

Man, I'M turned on, so that MUST be a good plan!!!! Seriously, that's perfect.

Now Puppy, you know I'm not flirting with you because you're a married man!

But thanks for the approval of the plan. It's good to have an idea of what you men think.

I'm so bad at trivia - dunno why. We used to go to a local restaurant that had 'guess that tune' night. My friend, who I hated for it, could guess every song within hearing like 2 notes.

It really was no fun, so we made him sit out like every other song.

Pearl, it is a good idea - I won't drool over you like Puppy though!

W has complimented me on my haircut, done double-takes, etc. I have gotten a lot more in shape, and she hasn't even seen me in almost three weeks. Someone told me the other day that I look 24 instead of almost 31!

My goal is simply to be happy and healthy - it is just a side-benefit that I look A LOT better than the OM in just about every way.

What it does for me really - is gets me looks all the time, and that is a huge booster! Get out and have some fun - flash that gorgeous smile!

Hee hee. Way to go Pearl!
Funny, I'm just north of you - Bellingham.
Are you in Colorado now?
SF is such a cool city. So much going on there...

I live in Denver now, just until I can get a job and move to SF! I went to college in SF and lived there a few years afterwards so it's not like going someplace totally new. That's where I feel most comfortable and just know it's where I need to be now.

Hi Pearl,

Thanks for your support on my thread and I appreciate that you said this:


It's similar to one of the first things I read on this board by Puppy - never deny the adulterer the consequences of the adultery. He always stresses CONSEQUENCES and it's something I contemplate often - the consequences of H's actions as well as my own.

You sound very strong and I'm wondering since you're doing such a great job of letting go if your BF is secretly having second thoughts.

Take care.

Hey JD, isn't it your guys' night out tonight? If I was still in Seattle I could organize a girls' night out but hard to do here since I only have three friends total!

I think Puppy is just letting his imagination run wild since he doesn't even know what I look like! But since you do, thanks for the compliment on my smile!

The crisis weight loss has definitely generated compliments and now I'm worried about putting it all back on! I'm fine with a few pounds so I have a "sickness weight" safety net, but I do want to stay this size now. xBF never complimented me on my looks (in fairness, I didn't compliment him either) so I am just lapping up all the attention these days. Definitely an ego booster!

Thanks SF!

Pretty sure I picked up that attitude from Puppy.

I haven't really thought about it much, but I highly doubt xBF is having second thoughts. He is extremely non-confrontational so when he decided it wasn't working he just wanted to walk away. He thinks our problems stem from who we are so if he just finds someone else (like OW) everything will be fine in his life.

I do want to make him realize that he has thrown away the best thing in his life. However he has never been someone to admit his mistakes. I don't expect him to ever come to me and say anything to that effect. It will just be enough to know that I am a great person and deserve someone who will appreciate me. If he doesn't that's his loss and better for me to get rid of him now.