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Man, it is good to be off the roller-coaster, but it's still fun to watch it twist by. Even more amazing when you are watching it from a distance.

Not to sound like a big religious nut, but W and I never let our kids say "Oh my God" - 1st commandment and all that.

W told the kids at Christmas that she didn't care if they said it. Kids told me, and I said that's fine, but the rule when you're here is different.

Well, D8 just told me that W changed her mind again, and told them they couldn't say it now. Poor confused kids!

This - from the woman who just told me that my relationship with God was "fictional feel-good".

Tawnya always says not to try to rationalize the irrational, but, wow, you know... That part of my brain just twitches.

aww thank you {{{JD}}} for quoting me..it's very true..there is no rationalizing something/someone that is very irrational..

Tawnya

JD,

YOU DA MAN!!!

Kevin

Thanks Kevin!

I have felt pretty good the last couple of days! I sense God moving very clearly - I'm not sure WHAT he's doing, but I'm OK with sitting back, and seeing what happens.

I'm struggling with finding a happy medium in believing that my marriage can be restored, and being ready to move on if it isn't. It's a tricky balance, but I'm getting better at it.

No real updates - pick up kids at 3:15pm, so we'll see what they have to say!

Hang in there JD.

You are on the tightrope, don't lose your balance!

JD -

HELP read my thread.

(((JD)))

Just catching up after my weekend out of town. Sorry you had to go through that drama but good for you for finding something positive in the outcome. Glad your parents came up for the weekend and you ended up having a great time. BTW, I love The Princess Bride!

Keep up the PMA and being the best dad you can be.

Thanks Pearl - hope your weekend was a blast! PMD/Best Dad - can't find a better plan!

Journaling:

It is funny to see how a guilty conscience works:

Being as I am currently dark - I thought about something, and decided to do it. W used to have this MRDD patient that was about 45 years old, but probably 3-4 years old in mind. He took a liking to her, and would come up and hug her, and just loved her.

He died Sunday or early Monday. Kids were supposed to go to a lunch with W's school friends and their kids, but I found out they didn't.

Me: "I was so sorry to hear about *patient*. I know he was your buddy."

W: "I canceled my lunch with my friends and was *patient's place*"

Me: "What?" (wasn't expecting that response to condolences)

W: "That's why I didn't meet kids for lunch"

Me: "I didn't say anything about that, just expressing condolences for *patient*"

W: "Thank you"

Just makes me shake my head - that you can't even wish someone honest condolences without them jumping to defend themselves - guilty conscience anyone?

I'd have to say yup. You are right. I'm proud of you JD. You have really shown up as a man and a person and a loving husband.
And the length of time you have had to endure this is unreal.

Ya, I think her guilt is talking. Keep playing the right part. Maybe at some point things will turn around. It may take her world crumbling around her to do it. God works in funny ways. But he knows what triggers everyone back.

You are an example to us all.

Kevin

Paging JD, Could JD please help me!!!!!

Come to my thread please