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By the way, the other night when I said I went to the movies, I didn't tell you that I saw "He's Just Not That Into You"..which was an interesting choice for me to go see I KNOW..LOL, but it was really good and I liked it because it was a "real life " for the most part thing, meaning not everything got all neat and tidy and fairy tale at the end..but it was definitely good and, honestly, hard to watch at times..don't want to give it away and say why..

Anyone else seen it? I also want to see when they come out: "Confessions of a Shopaholic", "Ghosts of Girlfriends Past", "All About Steve", and "The Proposal"..they all look really cute and funny!!

Tawnya

hi T from T

have a good night.

Glorify our most excellent Lord.

{T}..there's a lot of happiness in your post. Great to hear that.

Heroes..my fav programme. Ep 14..omg!!.

I would LOVE to know where the scriptwriters get their isnpiration.

<whispers>...have you worked out how to get the FB details to one another yet?..<looks around>...shhh...i never said that!

ACK..and you are a Heroes fan too..live near Patrick Stewart, and I'm sure have an awesome English accent yourself..how cool are you?? LOL..I can't believe you love my favorite show It was good again tonight, as always!!

Psst..the eagle has landed..repeat the eagle has landed..or whatever other code words people say..LOLOL..did you send out bat signals to all the NC'ers?

Tawnya

Well to add to my interesting evening..had an "interesting' convo with hub this evening..

He comes upstairs and is like "are you working this weekend" and I don't tell him yes or no but I'm like "why"..and he informs me that his apartment is ready and he is planning to move on the 15th..so he was letting me know because at one point I had said I didn't want to be here..but I'm not sure 1 way or the other yet..wish I thought it mattered to him either way..

But..I took the time to tell him some things that were on my mind..he was a bit disrespectful, but I called him on the disrespect, hopefully he listened, do I know if he did, no..but I can hope so eh?

Sigh..I feel like I have done all I can do right now at this point..I sure hate like anything to be at this point..but here I am..

I knew he must be thinking about moving soon because he started to pack up some things downstairs that I saw when I went down there tonight, it just really makes me sad that he could just walk away..I'm okay..don't get me wrong, but THAT makes me sad..

BUT..on the upside, the few things I got to say to him that I MEANT were good for him to know, I told him that thru this process he has stopped doing things around the house and I told him, "you know what, I found out that I don't NEED you"..I said, "I love you, wanted to be with you, but I don't NEED you" (he didn't say anything to that..which surprises me because usually he says "good" or something to that effect..

The other thing I told him is that he has tried and tried to push me away by being mean and hurtful and disrespectful and that he should stop being so disrespectful to me, I told him at the VERY least he should be respectful and at the most he should be walking around here sorry because he knows he's being a jerk..and I said, "you can try to push me away all you want, hasn't really worked yet, I'm still here and this ring is still on my finger"..I said, "but I'm tired of all of the crap and that's why if you need to go then go ahead"..

Again, whether it did any good, I dunno..but to stand there, look him in the eye and mean when I said I didn't "need" him felt good because, tho I still love him, I am not (like we said earlier) going to be codependent on him or anyone again..(hey V..can I borrow your boots?! LOL)

Tawnya (who has to get up in like 4 1/2 hours ugh LOL)

You go, Girl!!!! I can sooooo relate!!! Sometimes you just need to speak your heart no matter if it's "good DBing" or not! Of course, I've been known to put my foot in my mouth on many an occaision so perhaps I'm not one to judge......but I still think it's a good empowering thing to stand up for yourself!!

You are a strong and intelligent woman, and will be just fine!

Remember to be kind to yourself!!

[[[[[hugs]]]]]

Well Tawnya,

sounds to me like you have turned a corner and that is great. It's something I said to my W a few weeks ago, "I don't need you". She said "well that's good". At the time, I felt sick with her reply and the conversation went downhill from there. Now, I don't even feel the need to tell her that.

It does feel bad to be like that, but in all honesty, it's the best place to be. We don't need the unhappy selfish people they are, we love who they were, but not who they have become.


Right now, the only person you should think of is YOU. The rest of the world will have to follow you if it wants to keep up.

Up in 4 1/2 hours...come on, that's WAY too much rest

{{{SC}}} Glad to know I'm not the only one in the "foot in mouth club" LOL..thank you and I appreciate your encouragement and I'm glad you've felt empowered too..good DB'ing or not, it felt good to say

{{{Silva}}} Yeah..I hate that comment and tell hub that stuff like that just didn't need to be said back when he does it..but, you are right, I was thinking about it afterwards and was like "did I NEED to say it"..when I get to the point when I don't need to say it..then I'll feel like I'm catching up to ya You are right about the 4 1/2 hours..WHAT was I thinking LOL..I feel so way rested (umm..not LOL)

Tawnya

Hey Tawnya
Stop by and say hi...coming out from my hole once a while...LOL
That's so awesome. He couldn't say anything because he knew that's the honest truth.

You sounded good from your posts....
Keep up the good work..!!

NW626

{{Tawnya}}

Good for you! I'm busting buttons here. Just keep this going on, I'm seeing you swing the corner as well.

We'll all be a big bunch of giddy happy independent people here in a minute! I go first!