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WHAT THE HECK?

You started an endless optimism thread, and you left me out? I'm the glass-full guy, and I feel completely rejected.

Jeez! Anyway, I'm here now!

Hows the new job?

Poor {{JD}} didn't find the thread and missed part of the party!! LOL..glad you found it

{{{Silva}}} tell us how your first day went?!

Tawnya

Hi Silva

Sorry I missed the party on Saturday! But I did share JD's celebratory sense of style and dressed to the nines. And I did get some appreciative looks and comments.

Next time there's a party I'll bake some cupcakes.

Hi Gang!..let me answer you all in turn...

JD, Glad you found me, had to change the title to one more appropriate :). I'm the glass full sort as well, it always is, half water, half air, but always full!

SO2, The new job is good, first day was nice and easy with not a great deal going on. I actually spent an hour playing 'fetch' with the dog that belonged to the garage next door to our offices. How's THAT for an easy day!!

Tawnya, see above.

Pearl, yay, you're back. I did notice some finely dressed gal lurking in the corner. Your offer of cupcakes is most definitely taken up...you bake?..I think you have just found my soft spot!

Things on this side of the pond continue to be good. Something I found out the other day saddened me a little though. S23 said his mum called round one day while I was out to take him somewhere. She asked him what I had been up to and he told her "none of your business, you left". It saddens me that families have to start acting this way. Don't get me wrong, he still loves his mum, but felt he was protecting his dad. I thanked him and told him that he needn't do that anymore, I am strong enough to cope on my own now. Ah well, it's in the past now and we all know that can't be changed.

I'll try to catch up with all your threads later this evening, not a lot of time at the moment. Until then, take care my friends.

LOL {{{Silva}}} never really thought about it as half full of water and air..I am also one of those half full kinda gals..

Did someone say cupcakes?? yum!

Silva..as for your son, I think he, like my daughter, has to deal with his anger at his mom for her actions. I've thought a lot about it as my daughter let my hub have it a week or 2 ago, but they (The kids) need to say it and the WAS's need to hear it! It does stink tho

Tawnya

Sounds like a fun job if you can play fetch with the dog. LOL

Its sad when the kids need to feel like they are in the middle. Even in the best of circumstances like my frist exh and I, my oldest will still make comments to me about her dad.

I agree. I our case it really doesn't matter how well
adjusted you are or how well you treat each other, or if you
make sure that you only say nice things about one another....

My kids definitely are protective of my feelings and think
that their dad has lost his mind. lol

Thanks for understanding everyone, and thanks MIP for popping in here, nice to see you!.

I think that it's diffcult to be all things to all people and sometimes you need to realise that relationships between kids and parents are not always like a bowl of strawberries and cream, there are some sour moments as well.

There is a time when you have to be the caring parent and pick up your child's teddy bear and other times you have to leave it on the floor and let them cry. That way they will learn that things are not always easy. They won't have things handed to them, they will learn to make their own way.

My 2 boys know that I am there for them when they REALLY need me. They also know that I always will be.

Relationships can be like that as well, some take more and give less (the leave them to cry ones) there has to be a balance. finding that balance is tough.

Life is a learning curve that has no end. As long as we understand that and continue to learn, then we will all be stronger and better for it.

And so endeth tonight's lesson.

(the above is just my opinion..but you all knew that anyway!)

{{{Silva}}} That is so very true..and even as adults sometimes you have to let people pick up their own teddy bears and sometimes you get to help them along the way, like we all do for each other here

Some deep stuff man..glad you brought the strawberries and cream at the beginning that lesson..I have to ponder on all of that for a bit!

You are right..life is all about balance tho isn't it??

Speaking of balance..got any good plans to celebrate making it thru your first week at your new job?? I totally need to find something fun to do this weekend..and you and pearl are always galavanting around doing something fun..LOL!

Tawnya