{{{SRTTF}}} Sweet..a DB girls weekend will have to be planned at some point soon
{{{SMW}}} You know, it was just too late at night for me to really type out what I wanted to say to Tomato..but if I would have finished my thought, it would have been along the same lines as what you said..I think, no matter how it turns out, whatever my husband chooses, I will teach my kids how TO act when/if something like this ever happens to them..at least that is my goal. Thank you for sharing that and I'm glad your daughter is "coming around!"
Happy DB birthday day (you'd have to read Silva's thread to see what that means LOL) or Happy Valentine's Day to all of you, my sweet friends
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Tawyna, my sweetie, I am so proud of you....in case I haven't told you lately! The way you handle things with you daughter just blows me away. I think, knowing me, that I would not have been so kind and she would have seen some bitterness in my tone of voice or my face.....so you were really something to be able to do what you did.
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"YES..after all, HE made his bed and he should have to lie in it. He wanted it to end that way..not you"..
When I read this, I wondered if she was thinking that the kids have to pay for their decisions. I mean, that is what we try to teach them.....that one lives with the decisions they make. So, I was wondering if all of that was confusing to her and how her dad would "get away" with what he did wrong, and why kids would not get away with doing something wrong.
Then you chose that night to watch Fireproof. I haven't seen it but have hear a lot about it. At first I wondered about your timing to watch this movie! But, as usual, you are always thinking about somebody else and this was a lesson for your daughter.....and she is smart like her mom and she "got it". Gosh, I am sitting here crying b/c it is all so sad and yet, I think you are so super at what you do. You are doing a wonderful parenting job while you are going through all the mess. Most people would try to get their kids turned against the father or maybe even the idea of marriage, but not you. That is why I am so proud of you. God has noticed this, sweetie, and He will reward you for what is in your heart and how you have handled yourself with your daughter and teaching her what is "really" important in all of this. You just amaze me in how you keep on keeping on and you come here and are just everywhere trying to give a good word to so many people.....encouraging them and sounding upbeat, as if you didn't have any problems of your own. I wish we lived nearby where I could visit you personally b/c I know I would love it. You must have a ton of friends b/c you certainly would be a friend worth gold plus have fun with. That makes a good combination.
I think your H's timing to move out really stinks, but it would have not been a good V-day if he had been there, under the circumstances. I hope you will choose to start this new V-day as another chapter in your life. You will probably always remember it as that was the weekend he left, but just intitle the new chapter, "My First Free V-day" and you and Amy go ahead and get into mischief.......
(We both know when we are both are kidding. I just couldn't pass the opportunity to pick at you and Amy.....two of my girls carring on like that...lol.)
Love ya sweetheart!
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Aww {{{Sandi}}} you have me half right/half wrong..SMW was the one who got her daughter to watch Fireproof..but I was thinking it was a good idea..I dunno if my daughter would get it then and she, I think, just has to work thru her own process dealing with this all you know?!
OK..I too wish you lived nearby because I would TOTALLY be coming to hang out with you, bring you some goodies when you feel bad, and we would just have good girl FUN!!!! You know, I don't have TONS of in real life friends, not ones that I would love to hang out with daily, but I have a few really good ones near me that I am so blessed to have (like the one who sent me a valentine's card and the one who went out to dinner with me last night so I didn't have to be home while hub packed) LOL..yes, if I could get to Amy we would be out causing trouble and galavanting around for sure!!!
Hugs to you my sweet {{Sandi}} I hope you have GREAT and special Valentine's plans
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
OK..so can I just say that God is really just overwhelming me this week with people just being ridiculously sweet to me (and I've figured out my new word for the week must be ridiculous cause I've been saying it way too much LOL)..
So, I'm at work today and a guy walks in with flowers (both of the gals I'm working with today are married) so I'm like, how cool either one of them got flowers, so he says "these are for Tawnya" and I was like OK..who the HECK is sending me flowers? Turns out, my mom and stepdad and my sister and her hub (my mom and stepdad own the clinic I work at) sent me 6 BEAUTIFUL purply pink roses with a teddy bear attached..I love teddy bears ok..so how sweet is THAT?????
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
That is awesome! Sometimes we can't see how many wonderful people love and appreciate you because we get so fixated, but it is a blessing.
Shoot, I can't believe how many people have popped by to wish me well just on these boards, let alone my family and friends that have been there to support me!
{{{JD}}} and {{{Silva}}} yes it was so sweet..I can't even tell you! Had an opportunity for more sweetness tonight as I talked to a good friend of mine from my old church and was telling her about my sitch and she just talked about how I had sowed so much love and kindness and that I deserved such good things and just stuff like that..it was very sweet
SO..like V said on her thread, I had a lemons to lemonade kind of day myself..well more like a lemonade, sour lemons, to lemonade kind of day
Anyway..the sour lemons part was this evening when I got home, I went downstairs just to ask hub about sorting out some last things before tomorrow's move..and we got into a bunch of crummy stuff..nothing unusual, just crummy, and then at the end somehow we got ourselves out of it to the point where at one point I was crying, my hub was about to cry (which he just doesn't do), and he really said some nice things.
However, the coolest thing I think he could ever say was what he said to me. HE said "I have to say that I really am surprised at how well you have handled this whole thing. I really expected you to be clingy and freaked out (ala Carrie Underwood's Before He Cheats or something LOL) and that you haven't been like that AT ALL.." he was like "that has really surprised me how strong you've been" and I was like YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How I feel like I've been conducting myself (grace and dignity SMW!) actually shined thru that fog
Anyway..we ended even with some joking around and so..tomorrow will stink and my house being changed will stink, but I'm ok and will be better than OK quite soon I hope
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Just feel the feelings but remember your strength and draw on it. And know that you are not alone. You can always come find me in the alt and I'll be right there for you in a heartbeat. But, I do not think anything can make you falter, you have incredible strength and determination, my friend.
