When you get to the point you realize your self-worth isn't tied to someone else, then it starts to get easier. Your H doesn't deserve a woman like you. Your kids do. Pour that energy into them and H can walk his path right into misery canyon. Whether you will be there to answer his call when he realizes what he has done is then up to you.
M42 S12/D9 T17/M12 Bomb 1 3/22/06 Bomb 2 7/11/08 Bomb 3 7/31/08 W Filed 8/1/08 D granted 12/17/08 D Finalized 1/29/09
A man who compromises his principles never had them in the first place.
{{{LE}}} aww thank you for stopping by my thread my friend I dunno if you were saying this to me or to Kassie, but I'll take it
Unfortunately I have a feeling my hub will be walking at least partially into misery canyon and I hope he doesn't hit rock bottom before he figures out how much craziness he is causing himself and us..but he just may have to
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Hi {{{Tawnya}}} I love what Little Engine said about it's your kids who deserve you, not your H. Your H doesn't deserve you right now.
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
Let me just remind you that your R came to this point for a reason. It wasn't working for both of you at the time - and maybe this separation will allow you each to find out what has to change and what can be changed. My H and I have been separated for almost 7 months and he is finally at a beginning point for change.
Just be prepared for sudden tears at inappropriate points of your day. They will pass. You need to adjust to the world of limbo - just a joke.
Not sure why you singled out that part of the message. It was from a teenager's viewpoint and totally incorrect understanding of my sitch. I see a big difference between needing a man and wanting to be with a man I love. I could have settled with others and didn't. She does see that part of me. I also think it is important to see the difference between honoring commitments and abandoning them just because you are unhappy. I want my kids to see that the real world works better when you know how to work through things and the positive self esteem that is built with the effort when needed.
I hope you are hanging in there today. I know you are at work, and you have to be tired! I'm exhausted, and I likely slept a little later than you did.
Just wanted to say that I'm thinking about you. I'm home until about 4:00 then into the office (after my mom gets here for kid duty). Call anytime, if you'd like to hear about my favorite foods!!!!
Luv ya! Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
Hoping you're doing ok. JDOllie can add me to the "getting pounded" comment. I think going dark gave me a false sense of security or a out of site out of mind thing. My L called today and I wanted to say what? who are you? what are you talking about? oh that, is that still part of my life? I still have to deal with that?
I had a backslide last week too when I noticed that H had removed some of his belongings. Do you think it's a "man" thing that even if they're having second thoughts, they don't dare change their mind, it would be wimpy to do so?
Anyway, have a good week and keep the PMA up, which you do so well.
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
Just checking in to see how you are doing. I know this is a hard time, but we are all here for you and you will be just fine. Just remember and draw on your strength.
I dunno if you were saying this to me or to Kassie, but I'll take it 