Helloooo D, I know i speak for everyone, are you OK?
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
You know what I love about this board? I love how over time we witness ourselves and others grow from heartbroken wrecks to amazing women and men who have developed into emotionally secure and mentally mature human beings who are prepared by this trauma to march into the next period of our lives.
I've been reading Mrs H's great advice on this and other threads and what a girl - huh? How far have you come my friend? A couple of years ago you wouldn't have had the confidence to even formulate and write such a succinct and caring post - but here you are ... BND - wow, I think we joined here at about the same time and even through reconciliation and the long journey of piecing - you are still growing yourself. Beautiful Holly - a woman who has never lost her intrinsic compassionate and kind perspective, but who has learned so much about what she's willing to accept in life - that she can live her life and support others through this painful journey. And Snodderly & Naej - well I can't comment on their growth because they were way ahead of me and were amongst the women who helped me learn what I needed to know to get to the good place God wanted me to find all along.
There are too many individuals to mention - but do you know what I mean? This board is a living record of the extent to which a separation and or divorce can literally take us from a place where we think we are going to die from pain and lonliness - to a place where we understand we are the masters of our own destiny. God will help us define and reach that destiny if we use this process to learn the lessons he wants us to.
The most successful growth I've witnessed around here are from those who accept that this terrible thing has happened and then use all the liturature (Divorce Remedy etc), support tools (this and other boards)and other signs God puts before us to do the work we need to do. It's hard, counterintuitive work - but when we do it, it takes us to the next phase in our life we need to get to. The alternative - is to stand in one place, stamp our feet and tell ourselves that we don't care what the liturature says - we are going to do it our own way. It's kind of like refusing to believe that God has given us the tools to find the way out. Sometimes we just need to trust him enough to accept his signs and tools - even when that way seems the hard way.
Ya know?
Have a good weekend MWG.
Last edited by Walkingback; 02/21/0902:20 AM.
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Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
Just thankful everyday that we have a roof over our heads and food on the table.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!
