Still here, just talked to my wife she was on her way to have dinner with a University friend. She asked me when I finished work I told her and asked her why? She replied she was going to bring our dog with her skiing then. I said nothing and shifted the conversation to her university friend trying to remain cheerful. I am going to stick to the plan of not answering any message from her.
For some reason I fear that my backing off may give her the freedom to do what she is doing. I know it's stupid because she will do what she wants anyway. But it has been a bad couple of days. I have been wondering at what point do you throw in the towel. Sometimes I feel I may be better off alone, why would I want to be with someone who could do this to me?
I still love her and forgive her but I am feeling anger right now and want to scream. Oh well I needed to vent.
ME 44 W 32 M 5 T 6
no kids
June 08 I don't want to be married it's not you it's me
Jeff, you are right she will do what she wants to. Don't stress out over that. You throw in the towel when you are ready. It is ok to feel down, everyone does at some point. Hey I just received my last set of d papers, you don't see me wallowing in my own misery. One day at a time, is the only way this works.Stop worrying about what she is doing.Do something for you, keep busy.Don't give up.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
Jeff, you are right she will do what she wants to. Don't stress out over that. You throw in the towel when you are ready. It is ok to feel down, everyone does at some point. Hey I just received my last set of d papers, you don't see me wallowing in my own misery. One day at a time, is the only way this works.Stop worrying about what she is doing.Do something for you, keep busy.Don't give up.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
No worries about killing anything..... well almost
Originally Posted By: Jeff3
I am going to stick to the plan of not answering any message from her.
Do it.
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For some reason I fear that my backing off may give her the freedom to do what she is doing. I know it's stupid because she will do what she wants anyway.
Jeff, perfectly normal to fear this, but do you know what is good about it you recognize this. Now that is out of the way. Next would be to find a quiet place and ask yourself what is it that I fear?....Why? Find it, then lose it... follow me? Faith my friend...Fear and Faith don't go to well together. One of them will overpower the other. Which one are you gonna let win? Your right, she will do what she will do and only you know what you can handle and what you cannot.
DAY BY DAY.
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I have been wondering at what point do you throw in the towel. Sometimes I feel I may be better off alone, why would I want to be with someone who could do this to me?
You and ONLY you make this decision. Do what is best for you.
She is not well friend. Trust me, you can't very well even comprehend what a mess of thoughts she has churning upstairs. It's a place you never want to be.
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I still love her and forgive her but I am feeling anger right now and want to scream. Oh well I needed to vent.
Seems like a long time doesn't it? In the grand scheme of things, it's a blink of an eye. Venting is essential, get it out and be through with it.
I worked a swing shift for two years, then third shift for three. It messes with you at times. Take care of yourself and if your having trouble sleeping think of some healthy ways to help.
Your handling things well. I'm praying for ya gamer.
