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Hey all. One other thing. At the end of the mediation session, I asked W to sign a consent form to allow me to take the K's to an independent counsellor for them. After all the grief I was being given for not doing this, didn't see this as an issue.

I was wrong . She refused to sign. Wanted to discuss it first at our next mediation session.

Felt GREAT to have all three kids in the ouse again last night.

My heart aches for your kids. The sooner they get some counseling the better. It would be nice if all of you could be there, too, so that the counselor can deal with what your wife says rather than you.

This is going to be a dumb question, but why do you have to get her consent? She didn't get yours. You are their father and therefore have just as much right to take them to a counselor as she does. Just wondering. I'm glad you at least get them all under one roof with you for a couple of days. She is just slow at getting the "reality" of this situation.

((((hugs))))

(((S&S)))

A couple reasons to get the consent. First, the company the C works for requires it. Second, it is apparently a professional requirement.

I have been told that my W's C should not have seen the k's w/o my consent. In fact, it was not only against professional regulations, but may have also been ILLEGAL - could be consequences if I pushed the issue.

So push it! Why should she get everything the way she wants it. The kids need a neutral C, and taking them to hers is certainly not the best thing.

Right now your W seems to think she can get away with anything. The more you make her realize that just isn't the truth, the better for all involved(though it may not seem that way right away). And as far as your wife's C, I don't see how it has helped her in any way, she seems even more unstable if that is possible.

Hugs,
kat

Hey Randy, just wanted to come check in on you.

Boy, what a witch. I'm sorry, but she is.

All you should be focusing on is protection of your kids, you, and your assets.

Like a lion! Be on the offensive. She is obviously willing to say or do anything.

I'd recommend that he hold this card as an ace-in-the-hole, against a VERY aggressive settlement offer. "Aggressive" defined as something that's very good for LIS. If she balks, play the card.

Have you and your atty discussed some sort of a "sweetheart deal" to put in front of your wife? Waywards in the state that your wife is currently in will sometimes do ANYTHING to get out of the marriage. Maybe you can use that to your advantage.

Puppy

Then by all means, PUSH THE ISSUE!!! Its high time she got a taste of her own medicine. I'm sorry Randy, but until you make her responsible for her actions and suffer some consequences, she is never going to change. She blatantly disregards every rule, law, etc...while throwing them in your face and threatening you with everything she can think of.

Her total lack of respect and sense of entitlement really wear on me and I can't imagine how you do it. I would have been on an episode of 48hrs or Dateline by now, in an orange jumpsuit.

You are amazing, but its time to get tough.

What really gets me is that she threatened to call the cops. That the kids were there. She is trying to make a case against you that you are a threat to her so she can get the house, etc. I don't trust her at all. Not one bit. She's plotting.

{{{LIS}}} I"m so glad you had your kids in the house, you sound so THRILLED with that and you and they deserve some normalcy and something that makes you happy..so, in the midst of all the crap, I'm so glad you have that

Tawnya