You sound great, Karen. I saw a commercial the other day for one of those singles internet sites. Woman on horseback was talking about how she was just looking for the goof to her ball.
I thought of you.
I hope to find someone with the same goofiness you have. You know I'm goofy too. The kids and I go around calling each other "Goofy Goobers".
Spongebob, you know.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
I've been known to do the Tigger dance upon occasion . . .
And I think I know when that is!!! Awkward moment today. We were out shopping for D9's gs trip and there was a cute pink shirt that said my boyfriend is really cute or something like that, and D9 was saying I should get that, and without thinking said something like "I'm married, I can't wear that" and D9 right away says Dad is horrible, horrible to have a girlfriend and be married. So I said well you can pick and choose things you like about your parents. I was telling her my dad who was a great dad and I like to be like him in most things, but he worried about stuff all the time, and I told her I do try not to worry like my Dad did, that was something I saw that I didn't want to be like. And she's got 2 parents so she can pick and choose from us, like I said your Dad is very brave and that's something that's very cool. (She did say she would like to be more like me she's a sweetie). So whew, I think I got out of that one for the most part! Karen
That's the thing, I don't want to trash their dad, but I also didn't want to suggest that it was ok to be married and have a girlfriend. I wish I didn't have that kind of thing to worry about!
So my L just called as I was taking D9 to the gs trip. She will talk to me monday am. OW's H called my L today and was talking to her. I will get more details on Monday she says. He was apparently asking ?s like did my H admit to the affair in deposition (yes, and in the hearing he said who she is also). Their mediation apparently didn't work out and they are going to trial. Ok, my first thought was poor guy, he's basically in my shoes, I'd like to help him out anyway I can. But then, my 2nd thought is is that the right, ethical, Christian taking the high road thing to do; to help OW's H in his D settlement (if that's what my L or OW's H wants me to do)??? Any ideas? Knowing my L she will want me to help out her H, and hurt the OW in any way possible, but I wanted to get some ideas from you guys who have more understanding I think than my L does. I mean legally I will follow her advice, but I trust your life advice more than hers if that makes any sense. Karen
I picked up D9 this am from her gs sleepover. She had a fantastic time, just so happy, they were at a junior museum kind of a small zoo and took a night walk and got to see a lot of the animals (usually during the day when you go there they're sleeping), and had smores on the campfire and tons of fun. She earned a patch for it too!
D9 was thinking she would spend the night at her dad's today, I was going to let him explain that she's not, but she was asking ?s about tonight and I said Dad said he's going to bring you back at 9 so she'll sleep here. She said fine and didn't seem too upset. I always have kind of made up excuses or tried to explain away his stuff but I've decided not to do that anymore. He is who he is. Karen
Karen: , I'd like to help him out anyway I can. But then, my 2nd thought is is that the right, ethical, Christian taking the high road thing to do; to help OW's H in his D settlement (if that's what my L or OW's H wants me to do)??? Any ideas? Knowing my L she will want me to help out her H, and hurt the OW in any way possible
I would stay out of it, any information regarding your H and OW is already documented. Without first hand information (actually seeing them together) would just be unsubstantiated information. Your L can provide him with a copy of your H deposition (his L may have to petition the courts to get a copy). Eventhough one party had an A, doesn't have much bearing on disposition of property or custody issues, unless you can prove person is an unfit parent, but having an A doesn't make you an unfit parent in the courts eyes. I don't know how much help you can be.
What OW H needs is your prayers, we can all use that
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S6 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me New Abbreviation = WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08
I am thinking the other side of the coin. If some "evidence" that someone else had could help you keep your kids etc, wouldn't you want their help? I wouldn't do it to be malicious but really if it is perhaps his kids he is trying to keep, I would help. Just my take on it.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Awkward moment today. We were out shopping for D9's gs trip and there was a cute pink shirt that said my boyfriend is really cute or something like that, and D9 was saying I should get that, and without thinking said something like "I'm married, I can't wear that" and D9 right away says Dad is horrible, horrible to have a girlfriend and be married. So I said well you can pick and choose things you like about your parents. I was telling her my dad who was a great dad and I like to be like him in most things, but he worried about stuff all the time, and I told her I do try not to worry like my Dad did, that was something I saw that I didn't want to be like. And she's got 2 parents so she can pick and choose from us, like I said your Dad is very brave and that's something that's very cool. (She did say she would like to be more like me she's a sweetie). So whew, I think I got out of that one for the most part! Karen