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That she is an unusually stubborn case. Even when there is continued contact with an OM, and even when the exposed spouse is LIVID about the exposure, you usually see alternating phases of anger and normalcy -- even NICENESS and RESPECTFULNESS.

How long has it been since you exposed her affair?

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Puppy,

OMW was Nov. Her m+d was Dec. Kids were Dec.


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I'm not surprised by the width of the graph; just the amplitude. You're still not that far along for her to have not hit the wall, but it does surprise me that there's been NO turning back or niceness along the way. Even in the 20% or so of cases where we see a total hell-bent fleeing from the marriage, it is usually interspersed with bouts that are very up and down.

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Originally Posted By: Puppy Dog Tails
Even in the 20% or so of cases where we see a total hell-bent fleeing from the marriage, it is usually interspersed with bouts that are very up and down.

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Oh, I can think of a few other WAS that are like that. Maybe it's guilt or something who knows. I think there are a lot of really stubborn WAS around here, and also, I must add some very stubborn LBS. I'll admit to that too. Karen


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Originally Posted By: karen43

I think there are a lot of really stubborn WAS around here, and also, I must add some very stubborn LBS. I'll admit to that too. Karen


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Puppy, don't get me wrong, she is down at times - not really here. Just angry with me.

(((Karen))) and (((S&S))). Great to hear from both of you. Thanks for stopping.

I can be very stubborn if need be! \:\)


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Ok this is nuts...

Something up... W just came into my bedroom.

W: do you have your computer?

Me: no its at work.

W: were you just in the (home)office 20 minutes ago?

Me: no

W: well you were just checking things on your blackberry weren't you?

Me: (silence)

W: I'd appreciate if you stay out of my e-mail account.

Ok - WTF is that. After W left I laughed to myself. I have never hacked into her e-mail. Not sure what the hell she is on...

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She is still hiding something, probably OM.

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Why didn't you tell her you weren't IN her e-mail account?

My wife INSISTED that I had the phones tapped! Otherwise, how would I know she was calling jewelry stores, trying to pawn her rings?

A: we have Comcast Digital Voice, and all of the call logs are available on the internet when you log in!

Paranoia is a common trait of the wayward mind.

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She's getting paranoid. She knows she has lots to hide.

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