I wish I had the strength to stand as long as you have.
T2 - you know how many times I've wandered off down my own path (usually towards destruction) so it's not like I've "stood" all this time. I have not. So don't say that.
The only thing that has changed for me in the past 3-4 months is that I've truly settled in this place I'm now at - and I find it easy to wait (relatively peacefully )for Jeff. But with that said, I'm not going to stay here waiting forever. I am going to have a life. He can be in it, which would be ideal, or not. But I'll be fine either way and it took a long time to be able to say that and know that it is true.
Melissa, thank you. I appreciate the spirit of your post but in actuality I don't think anything I have done has been admirable.
Every now and then you will find on this board a woman (and occasionally a man) who is THINKING about leaving - and she/he finds this place because they are already fighting. That is admirable.
The LBSs that come here and end up actually doing the work on themselves FOR themselves, they are admirable.
I am not.
The only thing I did was graduate from the school of hard knocks, which I enrolled myself in without the benefit of an educated decision, and live to tell about it .
Either way you learned from your mistakes, and because of that God uses you on this site to help people avoid the same ones. You are a teacher, you have had many students.
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Either way you learned from your mistakes, and because of that God uses you on this site to help people avoid the same ones. You are a teacher, you have had many students.
Thanks, Craig. I do know I have helped some people and I'm glad I was able to do that but there was a time I did that to the extent that I didn't do all the work I was supposed to have been doing on myself. And I got caught up in a real bad place because of that. I used "helping others" as an excuse to avoid my own work. After all the hoopla of getting myself untangled I sometimes forget I really did help some people. So I will accept that reminder so long as God gets the glory. Thank you.
)for Jeff. But with that said, I'm not going to stay here waiting forever. I am going to have a life. He can be in it, which would be ideal, or not. But I'll be fine either way and it took a long time to be able to say that and know that it is true.