Well we had an absolute blast at the Skynyrd concert the night of January 2nd (I got him 2nd row tix for Christmas). It ROCKED and we were together most of the next few days after that. He calls regularly but it's mostly just because we have so much crap going - D13 school trouble - S16 about to get his license - also the finances are a wreck so thanks to some info I got from Miss LolaL here we are looking at some options so he can save the house. His work schedule just got flipped upside down but that's going to be good in the long run because he will be back to five 8's - like regular people! That starts next week.
My current state of mind is this: We can not even begin to consider the marriage with everything else so crazy. We're bailing water out of a sinking ship as fast as we can and there just isn't time to stop and decide whether we should jump overboard or try to hang in there together right now. I am absolutely at peace with this state we are in because we are working together and doing a pretty good job. Last week we had a major blowout with the middle school on D13s behalf and we were like a tag team.
The man has enough pressure on him. We are more than just co-parents though.
When the first act was playing at the concert he put his arm around the back of my chair and was rubbing my shoulder. We slept together that night and HE wanted to "cuddle" (not much else was happening if you can read between the lines - I was at a Skynyrd concert, ya feel me? ). Since November (when I actually spent the night with him twice - yes in the "biblical" sense - things have changed. We are closer. Could just be me but the fact is after 3+ years, there's still JUST me - so that says something, I think.
I think you are making great progress. I am so pleased for you!!!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Well we had an absolute blast at the Skynyrd concert the night of January 2nd (I got him 2nd row tix for Christmas). It ROCKED and we were together most of the next few days after that. He calls regularly but it's mostly just because we have so much crap going - D13 school trouble - S16 about to get his license - also the finances are a wreck so thanks to some info I got from Miss LolaL here we are looking at some options so he can save the house. His work schedule just got flipped upside down but that's going to be good in the long run because he will be back to five 8's - like regular people! That starts next week.
My current state of mind is this: We can not even begin to consider the marriage with everything else so crazy. We're bailing water out of a sinking ship as fast as we can and there just isn't time to stop and decide whether we should jump overboard or try to hang in there together right now. I am absolutely at peace with this state we are in because we are working together and doing a pretty good job. Last week we had a major blowout with the middle school on D13s behalf and we were like a tag team.
The man has enough pressure on him. We are more than just co-parents though.
When the first act was playing at the concert he put his arm around the back of my chair and was rubbing my shoulder. We slept together that night and HE wanted to "cuddle" (not much else was happening if you can read between the lines - I was at a Skynyrd concert, ya feel me? ). Since November (when I actually spent the night with him twice - yes in the "biblical" sense - things have changed. We are closer. Could just be me but the fact is after 3+ years, there's still JUST me - so that says something, I think.
Thanks for asking, Braveheart.
AW AMY, everyone sleeps together after a Skynard concert! LOL Don't lie to us, you seduced that poor man!!! LOL Sounds like you have a real shot Amy!!!
Dude, I passed from hot & sexy to half-toasted and sweaty by the end of that show. I couldn't have seduced him if I'd wanted to that night. I think he does appreciate my new "if you can't beat 'em, join 'em" attitude as far as drinking goes though! Well, until I was hurling up my toenail polish the next morning that is ~ HAAA!
Interestingly, he kept pretty straight that night and he didn't even flip out when they came onstage (and they're HIS fave band of all time). I on the other hand freaked out like a woman at an Elvis concert in '74 .
You help so many here and I trust that you help yourself in the process of helping other. I am back here, not because my situation has changed, but because I need the support and I now understand that I can't fix my M. I can't fix my XW. My job is to fix myself with God's loving grace and mercy, often relying on my Lord and savior to carry me because I am too weak to do what I am able, but reluctant to do.
If you find the time, I am under a new DB name on this board. Thank you. You are appreciated by so many.
Letting Go Tom; JUST DO IT! previously hopeful_husband
my A: Fall 05 W found out: Feb 06; separated immediately W pursued D, final 7/11/07
). Since November (when I actually spent the night with him twice - yes in the "biblical" sense - things have changed. We are closer. Could just be me but the fact is after 3+ years, there's still JUST me - so that says something, I think.
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Glad you're well.