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Talking about Job's wife.......I'm not sure she was a Believer, either. We don't know b/c the scriputure does not really say. However, she certainly was part of the testing that hindered Job! I noticed after everything was over and God blessed Job abundantly with more riches, more children, and I wondered maybe a new wife??? Never mentioned the one that wanted him to cruse God and die. Anyway, I do believe that if you stick with trying to focus on what God wants "you" to do instead of over-thinking about your W and what she is going to do next or what she may be thinking,etc., that you will be okay....just like Job, and God will take care of everything else. Whatever happened to the "wife" is not clear, but apparently, Job was quite happy. I do understand your burden for her to become a Believer and I certainly am not making light of that fact. She will watch you and how you will conduct yourself in all of this simply b/c you do go by the name "Christian" and probably would use anything she could against you on that one account. So, that is your "Job" test. All of this together is your Job test. In the end, I think she will look back at the stitch and respect you for the stand you have taken. I got the idea at times that Job kind of tuned Mrs. Job out and just forcused on him and God, but she was not the main character of that passage of scripture, so we don't know what may have happened behind closed doors. I think the entire concept was that Job knew he had to keep his focus on what the whole thing was about. He did not take his friends advice and he didn't listen to his wife, he just worked on his R with God. Good lesson for all of us.

Craig, I am kind of like Jack said about moving on to newcomers, but it sure doesn't mean I don't still care about you and what happens. I just know you have the connection to as much power as you need to make it through and there are a lot of people here that are so fragile. You are going to be fine, but I hope the stitch will end with both of you still together. I will check back from time to time and you can find me whenever you need me, okay?

Take care, friend.
Sandi

Sandi,

I hope I did not come across as a woe is me post, that was not my intention, the fact that there is not much going on in my situation is a blessing. I would certainly not the opposite.Focusing on Jesus has to be my main concern, he will take care of all the rest. Thank you for posting, the newcomers need our help. I appreciate your kindness and support.

Hey Craig,

Just checking in. I have been so busy keeping busy and working that I have not had much of a chance to get on the forum. Just wanted to let you know that I still am praying for you. I don't have any wise words right now but everyone is right we have to focus on God first and finish each day well. This is knocking the crap out of us but God gives us strength.

I posted this before but at church the minister said something that struck me, " when we get knocked on or backs the only thing we can do is look up."

Cheers,
Jeff

Jeff,
simple message, but very true. He wants us to depend on him , it is for our own benefit.

Not much if anything going on here, been busy all week.Have only talked to wife once or twice. Pretty calm.

I guess my prior post came too soon. Wife dropped off remainder of divorce papers to sign, things look a little bleak, should only be a matter of a few weeks until it is finished.We will wait and see. Not happy about this turn of events.Faith is still strong regardless. Whatever happens it is the Lords will.amen

I was just thinking of the last 16 months. Other than the mistakes that I made in the very beginning, I would not change a thing I did, This is her decision, this is her choice. I feel at peace , either way.I gave her space and love and hundreds of prayers.It is truly in God's hands.

Sorry to hear about the papers, I will pray for you but as you said this is her choice keep the faith.

Jeff

I tell ya, I am really angry today thinking about signing the papers today.It just frys me. This is so unnecessary!! Lord Jesus I need to calm down.I want to scream.

We signed the final divorce papers today. Melancholy is how I am feeling right now. I called and told my wife that I did not enjoy signing the paperwork, and It was not something I wanted to have to do. Not dbing , but at this point it makes no difference.I think she had company at her apartment, so it was a quick phone conversation.She said she didnt think I would enjoy it. I just said it was something I had to say.it should not be long before we get the final judgement.

The Lord has something better for me down the road.