Frank, Maybe this is the wrong approach.... But, If I still lived in So.Cal I swear I would drive my arse over to your house and slap you silly!!!
For the love of God you are having a friggin pity party.
Excuse after excuse of why something won't work before you even try.
I just don't understand!!!
Go back and read all of your posts over the past year. Did you write all of that crap to pacify the rest of us and to make us think you were finally getting your act together?
It just frustrates me to no end when I see a grown man blubbering away and refusing to help himself.
Yes, your life may suck right now, but look at the choices you are making for yourself.
It is you who has chosen this path. It is you who keeps picking up the bottle. It is you who refuses to GAL.
Frank, practice what you preach. You have given great advice to so many here and yet you refuse to take it for yourself.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
BND is being nicey nice right now Frank and she is correct, just in a flower and pony sort of way.
You might want to re-think wanting to talk to me later, but it does fit with your martyr complex. Oh in no way am I saying I won't talk either or don't want too so that's not the excuse.
Cowboy Up Frank.
What the hell happened to you? It's rhetorical, because any written response is a stupid lame excuse. How do you not punch the mirror? And start over?
Pour the liquor down the sink. Stand like a man. Be a father, stop blaming her and stop blaming her for your kids misery. Two parents are there.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
This is hard to watch. I feel for you Frank, but dammit you are giving your STBXW ammunition. I told you some time ago some good advise my cousin gave me and it worked for me. That is to strike hard and strike fast. You have underestimated your W's intentions and I hope it does not bite you in the butt.
If you stick around we can help you but you are going to have to keep it real with us and also get some REGULARLY SCHEDULED professional help.
Ok, I will stick around. I will keep it real.
I talked to W's friend who I know from church. She said that I need to GAL, I need to trust in God. She believes that both W and I are lost souls looking for something. W is looking in the wrong places and I'm not trusting in God.
She thinks this is a blessing in disguise - that it gets W out of the negative environment she is in because she thinks W should have never left the house. Not because it will reconcile us but because when I get myself good with God, maybe it will rub off on her and she will find her way to Him.
We will still get divorced and all I have to do is treat her like a roommate. OM won't be coming here at all and she will know that.
I have to get myself right with God. Trust. I just don't know how.
But let me know and now if you want me to post to you on it. If I post I want you to answer the questions I ask. I sound like an ashole, that's fine, I'm ok with that, I get that way when I think I'm wasting my time.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
