...... my h was my first love and I love him deeply. I had the kind of relationship that I was meant to have then. It is not the kind I am meant to have in the future.
You are absolutely right!
Sometimes I think that there is no way that my H won't eventually come to realize that our M is worth saving! I can't have been so wrong for 27 years about his basic values and character! Those are things that don't just change so drastically beyond recognition for no good reason!
But, then I get afraid again that I am just in denial. It's a fine line between "hope" and "expectations". A very fine, sharp, razor thin, cut ya' to the quick, line!!!!
[[[[[HUGS]]]]]
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
True that, SC! I cant believe I was wrong all those years either. If someone would have told me two years ago that my h would have an affair, ruin us financially and end the marriage, I would have told them they were crazy.
I hope you are right about their basic core values. And I too struggle between hope and denial.
I dont know how to change that. I guess time will tell.
I'm doing OK, but feeling really tired all the time. I am getting better sleep since I got the C-pap machine for my sleep apnea. I think I have my thyroid at a better level, so that shouldn't be the problem. I take my vitamins every day. So, I'm thinking it's just depression, although I am taking ADs.
On the whole, I can't complain too much. I've been thinking that I might take a "stay-cation". That's where you take vacation but don't go anywhere. Or maybe I could take S17 and we could go someplace quiet and just relax. S17 would probably find that boring though.......
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
hey girlie!! love that perspective, THEY are wrong now. you are so right!! you realize you said that right? that means you are doing so much better sweetie! love ya
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
My H is my first love also...and I also love him deeply, right to the bone...it scares me sometimes...I don't think I can ever love someone as deep....
H just tells me that he wasn't going to stay...he wasn't happy...he just neglected to tell me...and he never tried to put it back together or make it work...he just ran...right to OW arms...
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
