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She will not talk about the job. she said she did not want to "jinx" it.
I will give a little encuragement but I think it is best just to give her space... Quiet time...keep son away for the day. Maybe make dinner.....Interv. is tuesday thatis all I know../

I may post some stuff that we talked about this weekend when I get home.

Doc

MY WIFE GOT THE JOB...

Temp work for now but they said it could become perm..

Doc

What will she be doing? Is she happy about it?

YES

She will be working for some satailte company that tracks stuff,Like shipments and things. (Kind of like Fed ex) She will be pulling data for them. It is a small company. Nobody does this for them now and they want to get it web based so customers can pull data.She has been taking these Web page creation classes and the boss is excited that she can do these things.
BUT........

nobody is there to do any paperwork for her hiriing so she has to wait until Monday to start. She said she is holding out until monday to be excited. But I can tell she just does not want to be disapointed if something falls through.
I stoped on the way home and bought her a bouqet of flowers and some sushi..(she likes sushi)

I got a hug..

I told her I was so proud of her and I know she can do it...


Later
Doc

Congratulations to both of you! I am very happy for you. This will help in a lot of ways. I'm glad that the classes she took helped her get the job. I hope that she will be happier now that she is working again.

Glad to hear about the job!

Doc,

That's wonderful news about W getting the job!

From personal experience (laid off from long time job at the beginning of 2003 until finding a temp job or two in late 2004 and 2005), I know how debilitating it can be to your self esteem. Especially when your spouse is in full hate mode towards you as mine was then!

Great that you took the initiative to celebrate her success and that she reciprocated. I'm sorry for her that the company can't process her paperwork immediately and she will be very anxious until then - so please keep that in mind.

From a practical standpoint, I would suggest that W keep her resume updated (unfortunately you never know when you have to pull that out) and to network once the initial euphoria rush has abated.

Also - cool that both of you enjoy sushi. My D likes to make it on occasion but without any seafood. I heard that at our State Fair someone was peddling Deep Fried Sushi - just like they deep fry everything else. That is just pure wrong!!

Awesome news!!! I'm so happy for her and I'm sure she really appreciated the flowers and sushi. Even if she didn't say it I know she did (sometimes it's hard to "connect" and show too much appreciation when you know someone wants to leave... I know I've felt that way).

Anyhow, not working can be really hard on one's emotional state and self-confidence so this should help her outlook. Try to continue being positive and supportive, regardless of whatever else is going on. It will just make the whole family unit much nicer for you, your son and her too.

Thanks Root,

I think W is waiting until Monday to really get excited. I am trying to give her a WIDE berth right now. (Had to laugh I wrote BIRTH the first time).
I have not mentioned her promise about moving out of son's room this weekend. I was not going to push it with the new job coming up BUT.. Today she told me she was washing the sheets to the bed she was moving to.
In a way I feel bad that she will not move back to "our" bed. But given the fact that the room she is moving to is across from son's room I think it will be easier for him to adjust. And it is a start right?
I have all of these mixed signals going through my head right now. A week ago I was ready to give up but now a bunch of stuff seems to be falling into place. My Mom was taken off the pump machine today. She is doing much better. My youngest D who was living with her bum unemployed BF >>> <<<<who sat around smoking pot while she went to work.. They broke up and D will be moving in with my mom. And of course W almost has a job.
My job is getting a little stressful but there is plenty of work and we are short people so I really do not think I will be laid off. But you never know. Whatever they want me to take on I do. These times you can't afford to tell your boss "I have no time" ....

Oh and NikB. I really did work for 5 years as an Ergonomics specialist. I really do give fantastic neck massages.. So I have been told.


Doc

That's normal. She will probably experience them too, but might not want to talk about it or admit it. I don't care how much a spouse insists they no longer "love" another that's not entirely true. When you have a history, and family together it's inside there. It might be hidden under junk... but it's there.