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Hi, BM!

Yeh, H and I have a session together next week to talk about S17 followed by a session with all 3 of us.

I was contemplating today whether I should use some of that time to talk about my disappointment and difficulty in accepting that my H feels compfortable walking away without having been through MC really. We went for several months 18 years ago, and we have had a handful of sessions with our current C all about S17 and the family. Nothing about our M really because H wasn't "ready" and or "didn't want to". And he makes no bones about saying that point. "I don't want to"

Anyway, I still have trouble swallowing that he is perfectly content with that, and I feel there are a LOT of issues that have never even been looked at. But, I also know that H is still not ready to discuss it. C says H seems to be content keeping on his current "journey". So, I don't think it would do any good to try to push it even in C. And it would likely look like pursuing to H anyway, so it could set us back, and I don't want to do that because we have been getting along pretty well lately.

I know I just have to maintain my patience.......actually I never had any patience to begin with, so there's nothing to "maintain".........I guess I just need to keep working on building patience!

This sucks! I wanna hug!........no, what I really want is a conjugal visit with my H!!

(((((((Silent Cheerleader)))))))

Not quite the same, huh?

Sorry Sc, but I cant feel too sorry for you in the conjugal department. I am on month 19! Could also be why I am very miffed lately.

I would say dont talk about MC right now. Your h is not ready.
Just my opinion though and what the heck do I know? LOL!

Working on month 49. Something has to change pretty soon!

I should not have put it into months! OUCH!

I guess month eight is short compared to the rest of you.

forever,
poet

OK, I've said it here before, but I'll say it again! You people make me see what a TOTAL WIMP I AM!!!! It's only been 3 very long months for me!

49 months, Jeff? That's absolutely tragic!! If you want, my cell number is on the alt. I'll breathe heavy in your ear!! After all, what are friends for?

Well, I wouldn't wish it on anyone!

Uhmmmm, you might not want to make offers like that!

omg.. I with SC on this one..... um not the blowing in Jeff's ear thing LOL.....49 months all I can say is you qualify for the born again virgin thing!

VH, you are the winner! Not sure you want to be of this contest.