Dont worry about me, as long as things are like they are, I can handle it. I will soon have to make a serious discussion with me, and separate fears and needs and wants. If I manage that, a decision will be easy. xxx K
PS - Steve, I should mention that it was the conversations for me because our sex life was lousy. Always was. XW doesn't know what she likes, didn't like to talk about it, and generally never got into it too much. Never initiated. After awhile I gave up on trying.
Well you had better tighten up your shoelaces because I think that MANY of the over-30 single women out there:
- do know what they like - do talk about it - do get into it - do initiate it
Times have changed and Cosmo must be a popular read these days!
I am anxious myself to see if things in that department will be different if I don't feel as if I am being stalked or hunted!
I don't take it as a bad thing to be on here, even months after the divorce. It isn't about ex so much for me but about myself and my kids and trying to put the pieces together in a better way for all of us. Ex will inevitably flitter through and think what he has to say should change the life we have now made. It doesn't. He gave me a book for Christmas and at least put some thought into it. It was just a gift, nothing more on my end, though it made me wonder why.
Our ex's aren't where we are. They never fixed their issues which led to the break down of our marriages. They just went on to the next one with nary a thought or care. We tried to mend the wrongs but it was too late.
They are on a different time line but I don't think they will find an easy path or someone worth having until they figure out their own issues. The people we fell in love with don't exist anymore. So gather the photos and love letters and precious momentos up and put them in a box and put them away.
Personally it would hurt to much to look to closely at them now. No need to torture myself. Doesn't mean I am weak, just means I know that I am at my limit right now and will be ready some other day.
Don't be sad to be here, we are are glad to have you back. I get my best laughs from others on here and the stories can be inspirational too.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Don't think you have to move to TN Lodo... I doubt we have a monopoly on this!
Uhh, don't worry. Today it got up to 75 and there were women in the park lounging about in bikinis. How was the scenery in TN?
Time to take off the shoes, kat? Don't you remember? It's time to take off my sweaty lycra! lol. Went on an incredible bike ride today. Headed over to the coast on a 45-mile trip. Rode over the 2,000-feet high coast ranges and back again. Set new bicycle land-speed records coming down!
