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Mish, he has to do two one-steps

*Integrity

*Self-Control

And then Songham 3 is the form he has to do.

We have practiced all three every day for 3 weeks and he is doing really well. Dan and I both dropped the ball in the early stages of karate this fall and Nathan never practiced outside of class. Now he sees the results from practicing and is more willing to do it. I told him after graduation it will be a little easier b/c we will start practicing the new form from Day 1...

That's great BBJ. Practice, practice, practice. There are so many types of karate but the one-steps are universal and so important.

yep even when it comes to children honesty is the best policy! I am learning that lessson over and over and over.

I hope Dan is more consistent with his behaviour this time. Tell him this is "break it or make it time". This has to be serious. You cant play with your kids or your own lives. This is not a rehearsal. You are a Christian, you know that life is a gift we were given. We should make the best out of it. It's our duty.
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K

K I agree this is the last attempt at figuring us out. And I think we have a 50/50 shot at best given his attitudes and previous behaviors. But I know that this is the only real chance we have. For him to step away and see things from a distance. And for him to get some help and support from an outside source (counseling).

I told him in the car last night that the way we were interacting under the same roof right now would guarantee we got a divorce b/c we kept cycling through the same crap. He agreed that it was hurting us more to live together than it prob. will to live apart.

Still hurts but I know it is true.

And I am slightly encouraged by talking to the counselor at school today.

He said that from my brief description of how the past year has gone, the fact that H said what he did in the car last night
(he is glad I got to stay home with the kids, his life/career decisions were his decisions and he shouldn't blame me, etc),and that he is going to a counselor, to him that showed that things are turning a corner.

So that's nice. I think one way or another this is going to be the last time H leaves our home. Either he will never come back or he will one day come back and never leave again. If that option should ever arise don't worry this time I will stick to my 'demands' because I do not deserve to settle after all this hard work and sacrifice....