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regarding sexing texts/emails, i did start sending those. not just because i thought it would help, but because our sexual encounters over the past year deserved it. maybe in the past i would be too shy to say things, but now more than ever, i felt the emails were necessary. and they certainly havent hurt me by sending them, i think only helped.

sometimes i feel like i should cut off contact with me, that he doesnt deserve the messages, or the affection, but on the flip side, since it was a problem in the past, and u say it was for you too, it may be just what they are looking for.

it doesnt solve your problems, but it could help get u to the point of being in a position to work on your problems.

I think I will wait and see what happens in MC tomorrow to gauge BF's state of mind. May send text msg this weekend when he is out of town.

Well, all thoughts of sex are on the back burner. Had a major R talk with BF last night. I don't know if it was the right thing to do for us or I completely blew it. Need to take a step back and evaluate.

Can you tell us more about the convo?

Puppy

If anyone is interested, details of the R convo with BF is on my Newcomers thread, link in my signature. Warning, it's long.

At this point, sex is completely out of the picture.