Tonight D17.99 told me I was becoming bitter and depressed. I said that I was angry because W has OM over her house all the time and he parks in front of the house, which is just down the street, so I see his truck there every day. He used to park around the corner.
D17.99 said "Yeah, well I told mom it was stupid to park around the corner because we all know he is there."
She also said when I speak about them / him I am bitter. I said that I am angry because he is a guy who would hook up with a married woman, which is wrong. Her response was that neither one of them think of her as 'married' and both of them are acting like teenagers. Young and stupid.
She's right, I am bitter. Even though I have a 'right' to be, it isn't helping my relationship with my girls.
Jeff223 went through the same phases and I need to learn from him.
I guess I needed to add that D17.9 said that she has to 'deal with him because he is a part of mom's life and when I'm bitter it makes it hard for her.'
I think that the kids see the inevitability of the divorce way before we do.
I am so stupid. This is over. My girls need me to accept that and move on for their own sakes.
Frank, don't keep beating yourself up. It is your decision to your daughter it is yours.If you want to end it then do it for you and your kids.I know how hard it has been for you, you have fought the fight, there is no shame in ending this.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
There is no choice. W is F'ing the 'new love' and the girls know it. She's just down the street and they just want it to be over.
She filed and is 'hoping' for an uncontested divorce. D17 says that W and OM are like 'teenagers' so she sees what a f'cked up relationship it is for a 40 year old woman.
So, I need to move on, lose the bitterness, for their sake.
F I think it is hard to lose the bitterness It is a process dealing with the OP and getting to acceptance I am there also ..wanting to let H and OW go, but it still bothers me and I feel as you do
like the OP had no right to move in on a M peron it is wrong so time will heal us -more time we need to be patient with ourselves too peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Techguy just posted something very interesting about his wife that seems equally true about yours.
Yes, the rebellious adolescent fit's her behavior. Add in the problems I was having and it fits. And just like Techguy there is nothing I can do to change any of this. And being W's 'friend' would be an emotional disaster for me.
