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I guess you can say I have given up...

Maria ((((()))))
Dig deep,find away out of this. If you don't save your marriage, save you.
Maybe one last ditch attempt. Just tell it like it is,from the heart and no holding back.
At least you know your a hot house flower that needs sun and light to flourish, you can't survive living in the basement with no TLC, and just making do with the odd drop of water.
Settling isn't for you.
I support whatever you do. We only get one life.

Well, I sent him an email basically saying that I am not going to go on like this anymore. That I gave him a second chance and that he immediately took me for granted. That I have been honest and clear with him about my needs and he has not responded and lately he even attacks me. It wasnt a very DB letter since I did use "you" a lot. I dont know when he will read it. I know that this time he will not object. I feel it. I feel he feels I am the same person he walked out a year ago. He just wants to be left alone and do things the way he can. I cant live with that.

It was a difficult thing to do. I am not OK with it, I went back a few steps again.
K

((((((Maria))))))

Lets see what he does and says.
Try to rest and take care of yourself.

Hey Maria,
Sorry you are having such a hard time right now.. I think you did the right thing, writing the letter, from the heart. Do yuo dont know when he will read it, maybe tommorow? Did he go out afterall with his sister? I guess so, as you are here posting! I am sorry you are feeling down and rejected a second time.

I am sorry it was difficult, in what way, how do you mean? Difficult to be the one to speak up?

Always here for you and thinking of you,
Love Al xxx

Kalni,
I know how difficult it was sending H that email. You've been trying and waiting for H's positive responses but you've gotten almost nothing in return and HE was the one that pushed to reconcile.
Try not to let this pull you down. Continue to take care of you and your children.
HUGS!!!!

((((((((Kalni)))))))))))

I'm sorry you are in so much pain again. Take care of yourself and don't worry about what he is doing or is going to do anymore. You have done all you could and it's his turn to grow up and learn about himself.

A quote that my lovely wife used to share with me all the time when we were first getting to know each other (we have both been previously married):


"God never takes something away from us without providing us with something FAR better."

Billy Graham

Bill,
does that work both ways? Meaning H will get something far better than me? Just wondering...

How about my kids? Will they get a "better dad"?

As you can tell, I am on a "thinking mode"...
K

Morning K,
Yes... did that mean that Helen is better than me!? Or, maybe not, as I wasnt "taken away" and nor were you.. you are right there and he continues to be the same old H.. critical, distracted..so perhaps it doesnt work that way.

Is he coming over today, its his day off, right?
Love Al xxx