No I meant, werent you seeing HG in the summer.. when your H then got in touch with his "sorry" email out the blue after loads of NC and told you he was in C? So I seem to vaguely remember that you didnt 'bite' for a while, as you were seeing HG.. or did I get that wrong?
I'm sorry he doesnt reply to your messages, but they sound kind of cool/succint when you post them here, sort of, not that warm? Maybe thats how you guys IM, or maybe you were DBing, or just being a little reserved to protect yourself? Or maybe you expect him to do the work, step toward you first, as he was the one that left, so makes sense! But could you try being more encouraging/warmer with him?
Its a pretty potent full moon tommorow (see Kalnis thread!) so I reckon you should call him up or something... do you know his number, or where he lives? Seems a shame to just let it drift off into the ether without actually tryig to meet up with him, as you have been doing.
He might be embarressed about the cheque/owed money, if he cant pay you back.. can you let him know its not important right now, but you'd still like to see him?
I dont know, I'm alwats too nice me and err on the side of being compassionate.. but perhaps I am a bit doormatty! I'd just say try and try again.. what have you got to lose? You may end up D anyway at this rate...Like Mish says..what can you do next?
Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Frustration can also come from unintentionally expecting things to happen, wanting them to happen (then of course they don't). No one is a mind reader though.
I'm sorry you're feeling frustrated with this, and I'm sorry he hasn't responded to you in a more timely, considerate manner.
If you're ready for it, perhaps it's time to make the first move yourself.
(((((Michelle)))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
H and I did have a nice chat after he sent that e-mail.
I was pretty detached with him. Not sure it had anything much to do with HG, but just me being scared of him hurting me even more. Since he wasn't willing to do more than try and talk me into going home with him (the night we met up) with it very clear that he wasn't looking for a long-term relationship cuz he's not ready for one, didn't seem like I had any choice but to be cool and detached about it.
Barely heard from him since then. In many ways it doesn't even bother me. My life is much less stressful without him in it.
I am thinking that drawing up the papers myself might actually be a good idea. But I am still fighting with myself over it - as much as he wanted the D, and as much as I can't see us reconciling now, I still am having trouble with the idea of being the one to initiate the D. Doesn't seem right.
Anyways, off to work now. Hopefully you guys won't have to bail me out from battering some selfish, stupid, obnoxious customer.
Oh yeah, sent him a text this AM saying that "I guess Sunday didn't work out. I'm off on Monday and Tuesday if you still feel you have something to say." No response.
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Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
I get to spend the morning trying to sort out stuff for the Bar in February. They never charged my card and when I went back, my application was still open instead of submitted. Which doesn't make sense cuz I submitted it. Now it's past the timely filing deadline (I submitted it back in October). Ugh.
And they're not answering the phone. It's just ringing and ringing and ringing. They're supposed to open at 8:45. WTF?
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
