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Hi Mach,

Spotsylvania County...are you in VA?

And so today, my heart did a FLIP when I saw another email from H...but, then the subject was about a fishing contest for the kids.

H wanted to enter s10's catch (s14 has already won), but H wanted s10 to get a little recognition.

H wrote up a little story, asked my opinion and to edit if I wanted.

I just replied 'I think it's great'.

H replied 'cool, I'll send it anayway, I know the contest is over but, s10 needs his props too'

I didn't reply.

Two days ago H was threatening to cut off all money...today, H is 'Super Dad'....the bright side, his action today feels better...not so threatening.

roLLerCoASteR

Yep.......Stafford.....Work in Spotsy....

OMgosh




I don't get out much...but, I wonder if we've ever crossed paths...or if you've crossed paths with the 'other one'...my H!!

Same here.....Are you in the Alt Uni ?

Maybe...probably...but not sure if we are talking about the same place....what is the Alt Uni? lol

This bugs me...and I don't think it should...but it does.

H has not tried to see the kids with any extra effort of his own..only goes with the flow on anything the kids and I have planned and just hangs around. I do my best to give them space as much as possible.

The kids would rather be here with him, than at his place.

For some reason, it has become important to H that they go over to his place after school tomorrow and spend Friday night. I believe he will try to extend it to Sat. night after he has them there.

I will enjoy the space.

I'm bothered by his over zealous effort. I don't trust him, or his actions.

When asked if they want to spend the night at dad's tomorrow, each kid, individually asked 'why?'

When H takes the kids...which has been very rare during the last 3 years...it feels like he is stealing from me.

It makes me feel abandoned by H AND the kids.

I am the parent 24/7 and a weekend rolls along and H takes the kids for what...48 hours...and they have fun.

Then they come back to me for 'real' life.

I should relish my free time.

I wish I could ask Mr C. out on a date.

Hey Sophie,

See page nine of BND's currant thread for the Alt Uni....

Because H has the kids at his place so seldom...I'm dreading this afternoon. He'll come here, act like they are going on a vacation, take them, and go have fun.

I don't like him very much after the money threat earlier this week. Now, it seems the little emails yesterday were to 'pave the way' for today.

I don't trust the kids in his hands...mentally. It is probably way off base, but I fear he will try to persuade them that he is doing the best thing for them.

I fear he will tell them about the D.

They are his little buddies....he already told d8 that he had a new toy for her in her room.

Heck, maybe this is the last they will be able to get together like this if it is true that he is moving from there and won't have a suitable place for the kids.

I mean, Tuesday he had no money, needed to move, blah, blah, blah...

I don't trust him.

I am ready for someone new.