M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
checking in on you. I pray you are having a great VACA
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
Having fun I hope while on vacation. Check in now and then....oh, and I got the Jimi reference....he's a fav of mine, too.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
just breezing through civilization for a brief second...then back to the woods and my cabin away from it all. Barely any cell phone service (I love it). Guess the cell service, as poor as it is would be better if I didn't lose track of my charger ..:) Just had to buy a new one at good ole W-Mart.
The first four days of my time in the "frozen tundra" were spent with my beautiful darling. We shared some good times and some less than good ones. What else is new. She chose to leave a day earlier then what seemed like was the day she would have to have left for a dr appt. It always seems like that when it is known that we are going to be leaving each other for a time that there is this automatic hostility/tension/fighting that seems to take place just beforew the parting of ways. That is our way of giving each other a "hug". A term of endearment , I guess. It has been that way for all the time we have known each other. Quite a little while. We are dysfunctional.
Oh well. I hate this civilized nonsense. I am headin back to the NE PA woods where the temp is a cool 0! And I love it. Got my books, movies, draft micro-brew and my sled dog. Wonder if darling will catch in on the tale end of the last couple of days? She'd have to drive nearly an hour and a half ...so probably not.
It always seems like that when it is known that we are going to be leaving each other for a time that there is this automatic hostility/tension/fighting that seems to take place just beforew the parting of ways. That is our way of giving each other a "hug". A term of endearment , I guess. It has been that way for all the time we have known each other. Quite a little while. We are dysfunctional.
Actually, T, this is not dysfuntional at all! It's a very common phenomena really. Just ask SMW! I too was a Navy wife for 18 years and I served as Ombudsman at my H's last command (If you don't know already what that is, it's the official appointed liason between the command and the families of the crew). Anyhoo, in the training I got to do for that position, I learned that it's almost inevitable that fights escalate just before deployment. This makes it psychologically easier to say goodbye to your loved one. It's a coping mechanism!
So, you are not dysfuntional at all.......well, not in that way anyway!
Take care!
(((((hugs))))
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
interesting silent cheerleader. It's still a weird coping mechanism, or at least a not happy one.
T, the next time there will be a departure, do something different. Expect there to be some problems, and change your behavior before it happens.
glad you are enjoying the peace of God's nature.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
I am home from my WARM vacation! Hope all is well on your snowy vacation! The weather was well worth it 75-80 each day. First half of the vacation..to almost the hour and the day.. 4 days right at 8:00pm was with a wonderful traveling companion, my H. The last 4 days, was the H that I had hoped wouldn't come along for the trip. I am glad that I went and got to see mountains with snow, cactus, palm trees, the grand canyon, Hoover Dam, Las Vegas, and the ocean for the first time! It was a great trip for firsts! The last 4 days were nice too, but just didn't have my wonderful H. I hope you are having a great time in you last days too!
It always seems like that when it is known that we are going to be leaving each other for a time that there is this automatic hostility/tension/fighting that seems to take place just beforew the parting of ways. That is our way of giving each other a "hug". A term of endearment , I guess. It has been that way for all the time we have known each other. Quite a little while. We are dysfunctional.
Actually, T, this is not dysfuntional at all! It's a very common phenomena really. Just ask SMW! I too was a Navy wife for 18 years and I served as Ombudsman at my H's last command (If you don't know already what that is, it's the official appointed liason between the command and the families of the crew). Anyhoo, in the training I got to do for that position, I learned that it's almost inevitable that fights escalate just before deployment. This makes it psychologically easier to say goodbye to your loved one. It's a coping mechanism!
So, you are not dysfuntional at all.......well, not in that way anyway!
Take care!
(((((hugs))))
Aaahhh, a new poster on my thread and you seem to be just as much as a smarta$$ as me ...LOL.
Thanks for posting oh Cheery one. That is some interesting insight and not altogether surprising. I was hoping somebody would comment on that ..so thx. 'preciate it.
