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Stop it.

Did you go out of your way to patronize her before your greeting? If not, then you have nothing to feel guilty about.

Her reaction? HER problem, not yours. The hate is her problem, not yours. She MUST hate you in order to feel good about herself.

And what did you do after her response? Walk away and smile I bet; if you tried to defend yourself that would have been your mistake.

You did not make a mistake. The emotions are hers to deal with, not yours.

If greeting a person warmly is a mistake......

Thanks Jeff. I said nothing afterward. I still stay upbeat but yeah...it still stings.

I just finished my son's boat for his raingutter regatta. Pinewood Derby is next.

I've always tried to be honest here. I have very good days interspersed with 'my moments'. Court was not adjourned, so, next day is tomorrow. That, last night, and seeing some of the positivity of some standers here....well....I'll be OK.

Staying under the same roof leaves me available for these 'emotional potshots'.

Wish me luck tomorrow.
FIB

It is hard to be around a negative person all the time without it affecting you...negatively.

Jeff's words are wise. You did nothing wrong. Looking forward to the day when you realize that.

Centering the weight of your car as much as possible toward the back and bottom will make it faster during the race.

Our Pinewood Derby is next month also. My son needs to get his plans designed and then we start cutting, carving, sanding and painting/detailing. He wants to put a big sea shell on his car.

Kerry..I have plans I downloaded (my first derby) if you want.

To Jack...I'm gettin' there...I'm gettin' there.
FIB

You and Frank man, you both let someone set your self worth. Now I know we all hit this part with the bomb and the OM, but you both never got past it. Not fully, as evident that you thought you made a huge mistake being...normal.

Frank, your self worth should be through the roof. All the things you have done, all the things you are, but something shackled it...you.

Thanks, but we went with plans for last year. This year he wants to create his own design from his head. BTW... There seems to be about a thousand web sites devoted to the Pine Wood derby.

Does your son use the coping saw? I tried to let mine use it last year, but he had trouble, so I let him use my jig saw instead. Kids and power tools - you gotta love it!

Pfft. Relish those years. Add 10 years and they're making Propane injected potato guns and stunt driving cars in parking lots... LOL.

N.

Thanks you guys, for bringing back some great memory stuff!

Pinewood derby - we held the car against a glass window pane to make sure all four wheels touched exactly, before we rolled across garage floor to test going straight. As technical as we got.

Others had the electronic scales and a small plastic tube inserted in the rear of the car. Instead of trying to shave off weight or add weights, they poured very fine metal grindings into the tube and capped it at EXACTLY the max limit. Gave it all the benefit of gravity and downhill weight they could.

Learned of potato gun by firing someone elses. Saved work

Oldest son didn't think the girlfirend would take off across the parking lot with him on the hood, as a dare. He also didn't think her girlfriend in the car would yank back the parking brake to stop her. His "hang time" was good, his "bounce" was not. Six inch screw through two breaks in ankle really makes the story.

Youngest son's stunt driving in parking lot ended at the large concrete base of a light pole. Now that story was priceless! "So after sliding to a stop against the pole and smashing the front quarter panel, you got confused and backed up at wrong angle, scraping the entire door panel?!$#&"

You gotta love 'em, cuz nobody else would at such a time. And let me tell you, they will ALWAYS remember who was there for them at the derby, the parking lot, and the ER. And if one day, they find themself in the midst of a life crisis, it may be that your love is the only thing stopping them from seriously hurting themself. Priceless.

I see FIB heading in some wonderful places full of amazing memories. I just hope they don't include concrete and fenders.

FIB
everything the good guys said, and "Amen" to W2... (d19 got rear ended into another car, so both bumpers are badly dented. No injuries. I asked her for the ins info of the other driver, and she said, "the other driver said 'no problem".... so she got zero info...ANYHOW...like I said, no injuries and d19 was embarrassed when I explained how these things work.)

FIB, sending good things and thoughts your way, especially in court. The truth will be revealed in time. Ignore the weirdness. Do you take it personally when a patient going under anesthesia says weird things to you? Of course not. Same thing for wacky w's.

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