M, I could be totally wrong about him, but I do think he's at the bottom of the barrel and now needs to find a way to rise to the top again. How long will it take him to decide that the bottom isn't where he wants to be....now that's the million dollar question.
I'm hoping that w/the money situation and the car acting up, he'll start moving a bit towards seeking assistance either from a doctor or his father....he really is out of options, if you think about it.
I'm going to keep you and your family in my prayers this evening. Hopefully the good man upstairs will tuck them away for the right time to assist your h.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks for your insight, Snodderly. Gee, I wish I could post a picture of this dinky living room of his over there. It is really dark with archaic looking candles/things on the coffee table. That would be enough to put me in a depression!
Kind of interesting how all this week he was telling us that he will not pay for the car repairs and that we should take a cab to work and to the store. I can understand him not wanting to pay as most of this should come out of S18's pocket because he has put over 23,000 miles on my car. When I drive it, I only put about 20 miles per week on the thing at the most!!
Thanks, too, for your prayers.
I was up all night two nights ago praying about everyhing. I felt really good and upbeat and feel that God is leading me in a different career path.
Even though h was a no show tonight, it really has not bothered me all that much.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
None of us have heard from h since we last saw him on January 1st. And the funny thing is, not one of us contacted him or even contemplated doing so.
We shall see what this afternoon brings--if he comes over or not.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
M, I would be surprised if he came over. Why? Because he's in that dark hole. He knows he has to do something, but he doesn't know how to go about it.
You sound good and I hope that the "business" is working out okay for you. I think doing something different is fun and also puts a little cash in your pocket.
Enjoy your day!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Here is a dumb question: How does ow fit into the picture at this stage or is she irrelevant?
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I honestly don't think she "fits" in any where. I think she's just there and allowing him to sleep there and help w/the bills. I cannot see them doing anything together because of his depression.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I know these MLCers certainly hide their depression well and mine probably does a pretty good job of it.
It is probably much worse than the kids and I even realize.
God is still in control and that is a good thing.
Thanks, Snodderly.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
MY girls came in asking if their dad was coming over today and I said I did not know and that none of us heard from him yesterday. I said maybe he went out of town or something.
My D16 sarcastically told me to stop being so ridiculous and do I always have to be so negative?????
S18 is giving me headaches the last few days as well. He banged on my door this morning and accused me of stealing $80 while I took some books out of his room. And it was he who spilled water all over the computer.
Oh--D15 just came in and informed me that h will be here in a short while.
Hmmm............
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
My D16 sarcastically told me to stop being so ridiculous and do I always have to be so negative?????
Now this is where I still go wrong sometimes too....
One thing we must NEVER do is give the kids the feeling we may be thinking or talking badly about the other parent.
They find out this stuff by themselves, but we are sometimes to eager to feed them with the information so that they 'see' what kind of person their mother or father is....(letting them down and all)
If there is ONE thing this year that I will be watching, it is what comes out of my mouth when I'm talking to the kids, especially if it's H related...kids have a sensor for picking up on negativity...
And to be honest, why bother, they always manage to know exactly what the situation is like anyway ! (All by themselves !)
Take care xxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Yeah, but I did not bad mouth at all, just suggested that maybe he went somewhere.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
