I to prayed for my H's OW, I prayed for her salvation and even still sometimes I include her in my prayers. I agree with your list. A man doesn't chose a "friend" over his wife and kids. I think your beginning to step back and realize that.
I was not the DBing type that was willing to share either. There is only room for two in a relationship and in the end... I think my H respected that about me...because I had respect for myself.
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too