As a parent, I don't rely on the wife to try to keep up with the ongoings of the kids and I don't expect her to tell me. I'm talking about stuff that would be general knowledge, that could be found on the district/school website.
Now if I find something out that she doesn't know about or something important was sent in the kids folder during the week that I have them, then I'll let her know about a teacher requested conference or something that comes up and I do expect the same from her. But as far as the daily stuff that happens at the house, I don't really tell her and she doesn't really tell me.
Not sure if I made sense.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
I do that too, H. Any appointments or not the day to day stuff I usually email him and tell him. I made the mistake of doing a tc for the last gs thing b/c I knew he wasn't reading his emails, but next time I'll email him as proof though. Now I just have to remember to keep the emails. Sometimes I've talked to him 3 or 4 times about stuff and he acts like it never happened ?, so I think email is the way for me to go.
Ok, my C thought moving might be a good idea when I last saw her and saw my L today and she also thought it was good. So I'm going to start applying to jobs in a couple different places not around here. Most areas have more (there isn't any here) autism support or classes, if I get a job, etc. I'm still going to apply to jobs in my area, but there aren't many, every day in the paper there are thousands of layoffs here (today they're laying off at FSU), so maybe in another area I can find a part-time job hopefully. At least it gives me something positive to look forward to!!! Karen
Job hunting right now is terrible. Big companies all around Madison are laying off as well. I think it's bad all over. I've had to do some jobs I didn't enjoy just for the money until I could find something else. There is a company called Westat that lets you work from home, calling people and asking them research questions for a study they are conducting. I had to do one for smoking once. It wasn't a job I wanted to do long term, but I could work from home, and I could do it when my son was sleeping. YOu have to work a minimum of 15 hours and it is mainly evening and weekend hours. Check it out if you are desperate. Again, short term it helped pay the bills. You can google it and find it.
There is a company called Westat that lets you work from home, calling people and asking them research questions for a study they are conducting. I had to do one for smoking once. It wasn't a job I wanted to do long term, but I could work from home, and I could do it when my son was sleeping. YOu have to work a minimum of 15 hours and it is mainly evening and weekend hours. Check it out if you are desperate. Again, short term it helped pay the bills. You can google it and find it.
I was afaid of that!!! Thanks for the info; I'm def. going to look into it. Actually nights and esp. weekends are great for me. H takes the kids half the weekend so I could get some major hours in then maybe. Why didn't you like it though???
H just emailed me tonight from an email I had sent him yesterday. Asked him if he could check in with his payroll (state employee) and have them deposit the check. He said "as I told you" they said they couldn't split it into biweekly but just monthly and the court ordered biweekly. I emailed back that he had said last month he would check into it & I didn't know that. Thanks for telling me. (Follows my pet theory that people always accuse you of what they are actually guilty of, he is always super paranoid about me not telling him stuff but he usually thinks he tells me stuff and doesn't. His dad does that too--even forgot to tell the kids when he was getting married (thought I told you is their most common phrase)!!!
He suggested I switch to his bank, but I said it's a little too security concious for me. I know that's good, but they fingerprint me every time I go in there and won't cash his check (it's from his account) until they call him on the phone and verify it's him. I told him I'm not interested in that, but his money is very, very safe! (And I did not do a smiley in the whole thing by the way).
I'm feeling very happy about looking for jobs all over. Feel more empowered with my life I think. I told my L today, at some point recently I think I realized, you know my H is not that great a catch or anything. I always stayed with him b/c I figured well at least he'll never leave me b/c what woman would be crazy enough besides me to put up with him???? And then he left me anyway!!! So maybe not a good plan!!!! Karen
Doing great. Lots of errands lately! I applied to the Westat job, wdid, and they had you call and do a voice sample. They emailed today they would call me back within 2 weeks to talk to me about it.
Getting everything ready for the kids to go see their dad. He wants to see them just tonight and drop them off at lunch tomorrow and then will pick them up Sunday and take them to church and drop them off again. I asked him if he wanted Fri and Sat. night b/c he was set to take them to church Sun., but he declined. Probably a hot date! I really don't understand how you could just make the kids an afterthought like he does, when he or he and OW doesn't have plans, then he sees them. But different strokes I guess...I think he might regret that later, but maybe not... Karen
Karen, It seems to me that your H has it made as far a child arrangements go. Do you have a formal schedule for visitation such as him having them every other weekend? I know that you like having the kids with you as much as possible, but you deserve "me" time also. To me it's just enabling his "carefree" ways. As much as we love our kids we all can use a break. At this rate you can't even make plans ahead of time.
I know of a couple that has a visitation agreement (the ho and her exH). He gets the son every weekend except the 3rd weekend of the month. If he can't get him, he must let her know by Wed. of that week.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
It seems to me that your H has it made as far a child arrangements go. Do you have a formal schedule for visitation such as him having them every other weekend?
Our schedule has been he sees them 2 hours on Tues. night, and then picks them up for Friday night sleepover. He returns them Sat. anytime from lunch to bedtime, I think depending on when he has other plans. We're alternating church every other week so the kids attend both churches half of the time. I love the idea of him having the kids every 3 weekends actually. I think that or 2 full weekends every month is more how people usually do it. If I get this tc job at Westat, it's supposed to be weekends & evenings, so I think that I will talk to H about doing that schedule, maybe 2 or 3 weekends a month and then he will have a little less flexibility than he does now and I'll have more me time. I think he'd balk at that now, but if I have a job that takes weekend hours, he would at least consider it. I think my L was mentioning the every other weekend is standard and that would be fine too. Karen
(And I did not do a smiley in the whole thing by the way). 
Karen