Where have all good men gone And where are all the gods? Where’s the street-wise Hercules To fight the rising odds?
Isn’t there a white knight upon a fiery steed? Late at night I toss and turn and dream of what I need
I need a hero I’m holding out for a hero ‘til the end of the night He’s gotta be strong And he’s gotta be fast And he’s gotta be fresh from the fight I need a hero I’m holding out for a hero ‘til the morning light He’s gotta be sure And it’s gotta be soon And he’s gotta be larger than life
Somewhere after midnight In my wildest fantasy Somewhere just beyond my reach There’s someone reaching back for me
Racing on the thunder and rising with the heat It’s gonna take a superman to sweep me off my feet
I need a hero I’m holding out for a hero ‘til the end of the night He’s gotta be strong And he’s gotta be fast And he’s gotta be fresh from the fight I need a hero I’m holding out for a hero ‘til the morning light He’s gotta be sure And it’s gotta be soon And he’s gotta be larger than life
Up Where the mountains meet the heavens above Out where the lightning splits the sea I would swear that there’s someone somewhere Watching me Through the wind and the chill and the rain And the storm and the flood I can feel his approach Like a fire in my blood
I need a hero I’m holding out for a hero ‘til the end of the night He’s gotta be strong And he’s gotta be fast And he’s gotta be fresh from the fight I need a hero I’m holding out for a hero ‘til the morning light He’s gotta be sure And it’s gotta be soon And he’s gotta be larger than life
Hmmm....I would think you've had enough of trying to be someone's "hero".
Those were unrealistic expectations that your wife made you feel you had to live up to because she couldn't remove herself from the role of a victim who needed a "white knight" no matter the cost to him (YOU) personally...
and by the lyrics you've posted it sounds like you want to hold yourself to the same spirit-crushing standards.
I get the dysfunction is comfortable but damn
Just be a man, Frank.
Unless, of course, you don't think being an ordinary man is good enough...
Hmmm....I would think you've had enough of trying to be someone's "hero".
Those were unrealistic expectations that your wife made you feel you had to live up to because she couldn't remove herself from the role of a victim who needed a "white knight" no matter the cost to him (YOU) personally...
Just be a man, Frank.......
Unless, of course, you don't think being an ordinary man is good enough...
That's it exactly Amy. Heros do not "try" to be a hero. It just happens. You are also right that the White Knight thing won't work. Being the "Ordinary man" is what all of us need to be. The stable rock that a familiy's foundation is built upon is the greatest accomplishment anyone could aspire to.
PS Frank, I pictured you standing on your porch belting that song out. It was a very troubling visual......
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Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
So here I am - Christmas plus 1 days into my recovery of my life. A little shaky start, some emotion and stuff since both girls opted to stay over their mom's last night. Empty houses can be overly quiet.
Woke up a little down, but I've been reading inspirational posts to keep me strong. Working on that ever present PMI!
With few exceptions, pretty much every WAW seems to do so because their husband stops being Alpha Male. True, it's a measure of their character that they can go have affairs or use any other mans attention as an excuse to end the marriage.
Yes, marriage is a partnership and morally and spiritually they have usually let their husband flounder in their own despair and done little or nothing to help them.
Regardless, for the men on this board there is one thing and one thing only that we need to do and that is to get back our Manhood. Let go of the hurt little boy and realize that our entire life, our future loves, our happiness all depend on us choosing to be ourselves.
Not choosing to be the wounded puppy who got abandoned, kicked and left out in the rain. Get angry. Get really angry. You let this happen to yourself and only you can change it.
With few exceptions, pretty much every WAW seems to do so because their husband stops being Alpha Male. True, it's a measure of their character that they can go have affairs or use any other mans attention as an excuse to end the marriage.
Yes, marriage is a partnership and morally and spiritually they have usually let their husband flounder in their own despair and done little or nothing to help them.
Regardless, for the men on this board there is one thing and one thing only that we need to do and that is to get back our Manhood. Let go of the hurt little boy and realize that our entire life, our future loves, our happiness all depend on us choosing to be ourselves.
Not choosing to be the wounded puppy who got abandoned, kicked and left out in the rain. Get angry. Get really angry. You let this happen to yourself and only you can change it
