Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums Midlife Crisis Midwestern Girl 12/27/2008

H was here until about 7:30 and then he left.

I thanked him for all he has done this week.

No, we did not have anything done to the car as we cannot afford it and we cannot afford a car payment either. We will have to drive this one until it dies on us.

I told him happy new year and that i hope the new year will be better for all of us and he said he hopes so too.

He also said that he probably will write to his father but not ask him for anything but for thanking him for the Christmas gift he sent to both of us. I said that this was good and was a baby step in the proper direction of reconnecting with him. I said that I also think his dad made a baby step and reconnected because the gift his dad gave us had both our names on it.

Tomorrow he will be coming over to join us for New Years Day--very simple--sandwiches.

Hi MWG,

I hope the New Year will be a better one for you & your family!!

I would love to have one of those Crystal Balls also!!

((((HUGS)))

Hi, nlt!!

Quiet day today. Ran to the store quickly and held by breath praying that the car would start, etc. It was okay.

Kids have been trying to get hold of h today and he has not texted them back. They tried to contact him several hours ago but to no avail.

Oh well..................

Back to my chores now.

Hope you all are having a good day.

Your h is most likely in the dark hole right now. He's trying to work up enough energy and guts to contact his father after all of this time.

I do hope that your new year will be a better one. Hopefully things will settle down and you'll be better able to figure out what you need to do in regards to the expenses, etc. I do hope that your h will find a job and soon.

Enjoy the rest of your day.

Happy New Year MWG. I hope it brings you all you are hoping for, not least some stability and financial security.
Your H will do what he will do, but a start at job hunting would be good.
I hope he writes his letter and at least mends some fences with his parents.
We never know how long we will have them.
Wishing you joy and happiness for 2009.

Hope everyone had a somewhat peaceful day.

H came over today and it was nice and quiet.

When he left, he kissed me, said ILY and then he said happy new year to me.

I do not know why but I find myself becoming emotional when he leaves and I never used to be that way! I would hold it all in and not let on my true feelings but for some reason, I have really been showing my true colors.

So I asked him what is happy about the new year? he was like I don't know and then I said well I hope some good things will happen and he said yeah, me too.

Then I started crying and he started to get teary eyed, then I shut his door and walked back into the house.

Later, I texted him that it is very difficult for me to watch my husband leave me and the kids to be with someone else, especially knowing and hearing that he loves me. I also added that i believe God is working at the same time.

Hi MWG,

I don't suppose you heard anything since you texted him??

I'm sure this is so hard for you!!! I don't know how you have handled it this long but you are such a strong woman, I admire you!

Keep praying, good things are going to happen to you in 2009, I'm sure of it!

((((HUGS))))

No, I haven't and I really don't expect to. It seems lately he does not contact us at all if ow is around. Lately, he seems to not contact any of us at all unless he is totally alone.

MWG,

I hope he is still praying and that he will contact his Dad.

HI, PH!!

He says he is still praying. Contacting his dad will take him some time to think about although he has been saying this for weeks now. I think he will write to him but he said he is not ready to talk to them, can't handle it. The last two times they spoke, his dad kept telling him that what he is doing is not right and H hung up on him. This was 3 1/2 years ago.

I think his chances of coming back home are far greater than him calling his parents.

We'll see.