Well 2008 is officially over. THANK GOD for small favors. 2009 has got to be better. Thats my story and I'm stickin' to it.
As painful as the last year has been for me, it has also taught me a lot about myself and I suppose for that I will be grateful.
Christmas and New Years were relatively uneventful and that is a good thing. I look forward to getting back to work on Monday. I have been home for almost 3 weeks and I'm getting cabin fever. I have enjoyed my time with my kids and I haven't been up before 11 in the last week, but its time for REAL LIFE to begin again.
Strange thing though. I filed my settlement agreement just befor Thanksgiving and about 2 weeks later got it back because it wasn't stapled properly (NO, I am not KIDDING!) so I finally resubmitted it on Friday, December 19th. The sweet (BEEEEOOOTCH) woman who took my paperwork told me it would be about 4-6 weeks as there were at least 30 cases ahead of mine. I knew this from the first time I filed it, so no big deal right? I got a phone call from the County on the 23rd, but it only rang 2 times and then quit. For some reason I decided to check the webiste and I had already gotten a judgement. The judge signed it on the 26th...its a done deal. Already. Kinda spooky as the Troll is making noises about wanting to move out.
Happy New Year to everyone. To all of you that have helped me through some of the darkest days of my life, I am forever in your debt. I couldn't have made it without you. God Bless You.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Hey S&S. I agree, 2009 has to be better. You've shown amazing strength since I've been reading along, dealing with the chit you've been dealt. You amaze me with every post.
So what does the judge signing mean to the timing of everything? Is it just S papers or is it a D filing?
Keep your chin up. Things will get better!
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
It is a LS, but with a formal separation agreement it outlines everything. It establishes how much he has agreed to pay me, for how long, the house, the kids, etc... If/when a D happens, then all I have to do is file that paperwork as the agreement is in place. Considering what is looming ahead for him, it made sense to cover my A$$ while I still could. Not a huge thing, but big enough for me to sit back and watch the inevitable...
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
I'm back at work and I am buried to my eyeballs. As much as I liked being home and off for two weeks, its nice to get back to "real" life and have something to keep me busy.
My thread is boring now without constant H drama, but I'm actually pretty glad. Not sure what the new year will bring.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
hi S&S, I have read some of your previous threads and felt you held yourself with dignity. No drama is good. I am deep in drama with a OW that has dug her heels in with no end in site. Have you heard from your H? I wish they had LS in Texas but is D or nothing. It is scary you could be divorced in 60 days here with no waiting period. Pretty awful. Wishing you a 2009 that you deserve.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
Spoke too soon on the "no drama" with H, but unfortunately its drama I created for myself. I was paying bills last night and trying to figure out how much his cc payments were going to be (I know, I'm too nice. I should let him figure it out himself) so he could put the extra $$ into the account. I had almost paid off one card last month and knew there were a couple of extra charges on it and so I looked and lo and behold there is a charge for "dinner" for H and the Troll. He also got her a digital camera for Christmas and had his sister wrap it along with my gifts. The best part, when I tell him how these things make me feel he accuses me of wanting to fight and hangs up because "I'm not going to talk about this."
Start swinging the 2X4s, I deserve it. I asked him last night if I had been the one to do all of this to him what would he believe...my words or my actions and he said "I guess your actions." and yet I'm supposed to believe words? WHATEVER!!!!!
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
) so I finally resubmitted it on Friday, December 19th. The sweet (BEEEEOOOTCH) woman who took my paperwork told me it would be about 4-6 weeks as there were at least 30 cases ahead of mine. I knew this from the first time I filed it, so no big deal right? I got a phone call from the County on the 23rd, but it only rang 2 times and then quit. For some reason I decided to check the webiste and I had already gotten a judgement. The judge signed it on the 26th...its a done deal. Already. Kinda spooky as the Troll is making noises about wanting to move out. 