M, In the fog, they can't think rationally. To your h, it's easier and quicker to do the driving. Who knows, maybe driving calms him down. Maybe he fears that you would keep his car and leave him with nothing. We don't know what he's thinking. But, the gas going back and forth will soon add up for him. At least he decided not to get the rental car....smart move on his part.
Good luck today!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
You know, he hates driving in this city which is why I laugh and yep, I think he is afraid to stay over...heaven forbid, what would his roomate think or do to him if he did that! Imagine what she would think if she knew of the txt messages I still have on my phone that are from him.
It will be interesting to see if he gets here in time. I am sure he will because he has to take S18 to work then come back and take me a short time later. I guess he will spend the day here since he has to pick us both up and also take us to get the car when it is done.
And he will be spending New Years Eve with us and he will be back on New Years Day.
That is a lot of driving!
Oh yeah, we are all on the same cell phone plan now. About three years ago, he made sure I was removed from his accounts and now I am back on his plan. Actually, this is good for me because I am able to save some money but I will still pay him a portion of that bill.
My girls are getting antsy about him not finding a job. They want to tell him it is about time he begin looking. My son does not want to rock the boat with h at all.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
M, I'm right there w/you...I think he'll stay at your house today while waiting for you to get off work. This might be what he needs today...time alone at your home to just relax and think about what he's done and continues to do.
It's interesting that he's spending both New Year's Eve and Day w/you and the family. I would think his roommate would want him around, but because their relationship is what it is...who knows. She may have a new flame these days and your h is just staying there out of guilt.
I can't blame the girls about wanting him to find a job. Your son may be right about not rocking the boat right now. Your h is more fragile than we think in many ways. Let's hope he'll decide it's time for some help.
Enjoy your day!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Yes, he has always spent New Years Eve and Day with us--all holidays as a matter of fact.
Her--a new flame? I am not sure about that as she said she will wait for him however long it takes........
When I told my son that I left his dad a voicemail yesterday telling him about the car and then letting him know that we will need to use his car in the meantime, my son thought I was nuts and asked what the heck I think I am doing. I told him that since his dad does nothing all day, it is not wrong to ask if we can use his car. We are still married and there are two cars in this family..
He still kisses me goodbye at night, too.
It is all so weird.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Your situation appears strange to us, but I've seen several others that played out somewhat similiar to what's going on in your situation.
I didn't blame you at all, I would have called him as well.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I just wish he was close to being able to move home.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I know. It takes forever for them to inch along to the point of taking the giant leap.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
